WHAT THE HELL TYPE FRIENDSHIP AM I IN? What to do about Jealous and Competive friends?

Question

When she comes to me and tells me about achievements or anything going on in her life, I listen and respond, and comment, u know engage in conversation(even tho she is know to talk about very small superficial things.BUT when I talk to her about things going on in my life,she looks off in space and then interrupts me with something like' Is it supposed to rain today?' or something unimportant like that. When My boyfriend was alive and we were having our girl talks I would tell her about little sweet things my baby would do little sweet things. She wouldnyt respond, she would wait a second or 2 and say 'Oh What u say?' or change the subject.We went job hunting. When I had leads, I always included her.I got her her last job with my company. it was a temp job and she promised we would go job hunting 2gether. As I found leads we went 2GETHER 2 apply I found out she had been 2 alotta jobs cuz I found the letters where she was rejected.
I think she doesnt want 2 see me succeed?Is it Jealous

Answer 1

Sounds like your friends world revolves around themself.
I think everyone can relate to this type of relationship.. I know I have a "friend" like this..

We had a falling out last year when we worked together.. The true colors really shine through.

My advice is to sit back and think and maybe write down the reasons why you feel this person is important in your life...
If you can't look past her self-centeredness then I'd say kinda let her fade into the sunset and try working on your other relationships.

She sounds pretty aggrivating and negative.. and you don't need that energy! You sound like a pretty good friend and she doesn't know what she's screwing over!

Answer 2

its definately a jealousy issue. She is very self centered if she wont listen to you and the things u have to say...People like that are not friendship material, a friend is someone who u can count on to listen to what u have to say and be there for you when u need someone to talk too. If i was you I would just leave the friendship...If you want to try to save the friendship try to talk to her about what you feel and w how she treats you. If she is being negative just forget about her. You dont need negative friends. I wish u the best and good luck.

Answer 3

I think you should rethink the qualities in this person that make her a good friend, because it sounds like she is constantly brushing you off. Ask yourself if you'd do better being best buds with someone else.
Personally, I can't stand jealousy and competition, and if I were you, I would either: a. Have a nice, long talk with her and see if we can't work something out, b. Stop contacting her for a few days to clear my mind, and c. Ditch her altogether and find someone else who cares about you.
People who expect you to be happy for them and help them out in return for nothing on their part don't deserve to be your friend.

I wish you good luck in solving this matter...:)

Answer 4

Friendships are supposed to be obviously friendly. Seems like you have a very egotistic "friend". If she really bugs you so much, just let her go. Why hassle anymore with her? Seems by what you have said that you have tried and tried to develop this friendship but aren't getting anywhere. Just let her go and put your energy into others who do appreciate you and truly care for what happens to you.

Answer 5

Your friend is very self-centered... She cares more about herself more than she cares about you... You know, talk to her... Or give her hints that you are not getting anything mutual from her... Do your own thing buddy... Sometimes, friends are not friends... They are competitors... And that's the kind of friend that is fake... A friend is the one you'll see beside you when you're down and not the one who would keep you down while she makes her way up... remember that.

Answer 6

dude, if this girl is doing all of this stuff to you, shes not a real friend. i know your probably saying, like, but she is, and i know because i just recently went through something like what you are going through, it sucks and i know even though you guys might have stuff in common, shes just not being respectful towards you. if you want to save your friendship, you have got to tell her what is bothering you, its the only way you two are going to even have a chance of working things out.

Answer 7

I have to say friendship is really funny and it's like a marriage you both have to lessen to each other and be their for one another and if your friend is always trying to get one step ahead of you then she really not a friend.
When we do well at thing our friends are supposed to be happy for us and let me tell you of you friend isn't happy for you then really shes not a Friend she's an Qantas, good friends are hard to come by and if you can count on one friend they you should be happy. that all we need is one true friend that love us for who we are not what we have !

Answer 8

Sounds like a selfish, self centered person...the type that if it isn't about THEM...THEY aren't interested. Find a real friend who is as interested in your big things as well as your little things...that's a friend.

Answer 9

After college friends = nothing!

depends on your race

White men's family = Man, dog and wife. If wife take off with black guy the judge also award the dog to the wife.

Answer 10

sweetie i could so get into jealousy stories...it's jealousy yes. personally i'd back up on the friendship. i know you want to be nice. and hang in there. likewise that's how i am...but i have learned that even a christian girl (me) has to say no and back up to protect herself once in a while. *hug* it'll work out if you protect YOU. k? :) it's not selfish to protect yourself from hurt.