My Mother suffered with ALS (lou gehrigs disease) for 3 years & passed away a year ago this month.
I am having a terrible time with this anniversary.
Any advice as to how I can cope better?
God bless,
Kim
2006-10-17 14:15:47 · 11 answers · asked by corey_emily_siara_mikey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
GOD bless you sweetie! My prayers are with you and your family. I, too, just lost someone close to me a year ago last month. I know how you feel but the thing that helps me is meditating and praying on a regular basis. I suggest writing a letter to your mother letting her know how you feel that she left so soon. Get it all out and I promise you will feel better. Everyday ask for guidance to get you through and as the days goes by, that strength will be rewarded to you.
2006-10-17 14:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by JoUrNeE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you! I lost my mother 3yrs ago and I to have a terrible time. But, there is joy in my bittersweet memories. Time is the next best healer, God being first. I think you know that you lost your mother before a year ago. Your mourning could be tempered with guilt and/or anger. It is never easy to lose an anchor as our parent at any age! If it is okay, make a special box, book or video to put memories in, catalog everything that comes into you heart! Words, songs, pics, poems. Any and everything! Then go someplace and treasure every piece. Cry, sing, laugh and talk to and with her. Then set this somewhere in your heart. Share it when you finally feel safe to. Never feel guilty when you wish to be selfish with it and hold it close. Do all this when you can or just make a special time. Then feel free to let her go. Because you'll still have her in your special place forever.
May Gods Will in your life never be questioned
2006-10-17 14:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about this, I myself did experience the loss of a loved one and it hurts especially at that exact moment in time. I think that the best thing that you can do is remember the good times. A mother is someone that can never be replaced. GOD brings his children home at some point and hey she may be content there, and may not want you to be so down in your spirits. Remembering her may be hard especially at a times like this, just pray and talk to her who knows what the unknown world is about maybe she hears you!!!
Celebrate her life when she was here and all of the great contributions she has made in your life and all that she has given and taught you and you can hopefully pass it on to your offspring's. B/c she had you, you are a part of her, and you should remember and embrace that!!!
Hope this helps!!!!!
2006-10-17 14:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father passed away on Halloween Day 1997 it's been 19 years. It is still pain full when i spend too much time thinking about it. What my brothers and I have done now for 18 years is make it a huge day to celebrate and get dressed in costumes etc....We have haunted houses and parties and really put all of our what could be sad thoughts into happy energy. Good luck and although it is really early and anniversaries are the hardest. Keep going and make it as positive as you can. It's choices we make on "How to".............!
2006-10-17 14:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by pookie3411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very natural that you are missing her. It is something that we all have to go through once in our lives. I would suggest that you talk with the people who you love and you think that they care for you. Importantly, avoid loneliness. Try meeting people and help yourself by indulging in activities such as socializing and exercise. You can as well start dedicating some of your work (such as writing, or any casual hobies) to her. Let your emotions out and again avoid being alone. That will never help you.
2006-10-17 14:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by hallowguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have a dinner in her honor. Have family and friends over and invite them to cook and bring your mom's favorite foods and deserts.
Bring out pictures and mementos and tell favorite stories. Be thankful!
I don't believe that time heals; you will always miss her and feel the loss. But you'll also always feel the connection, right? Be thankful.
Hope this helps!
2006-10-17 14:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can do is share in your grief. I know how bad that feels. I've lost both my mother and father, and then a brother after that. All I can tell you is that it does get better as time passes, so just be strong and hang in there...I know you can do it. We are all behind you my dear. God loves you.
2006-10-17 14:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. But, you have to have some gratitude that she is not suffering anymore. That is a terrible disease. Be glad she isn't suffering.
2006-10-17 14:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry for your loss.........it leaves a huge void.......the only thing that will help is the passage of time.....i know that doesnt help much right now i know the pain of losing someone......try to remember the good times and know that she is now at peace its ok to still cry ...its been 9 yrs for me and still i cry......i wish i could give you something more to help you......add me to yahoo if you want we can talk.......
2006-10-17 14:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GATHER WITH YOUR LOVED ONES !!!
REMINISCE OVER THE WONDERFUL TIMES SPENT WITH YOUR MOTHER !!!
AND THE BEAUTIFUL PERSON YOUR MOTHER WAS !!!
P.S. ~ MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU !!!
2006-10-17 14:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋