i need to feel alive again yes he is some what depressed but i cant take it its been 9 years since we had sxx . i feel like i am just here to do all the work and no i am not selfish at all i got him help but he said he was fine i get so mad at him then he will say that what ever he does in not enough for me i want it all thats not true i gave up my dream job at 65thou a year to 20 for him but he said i need 2 jobs he does not work disa.
2006-10-17 14:06:38 · 16 answers · asked by rradboys 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have one life.......this is not a dress rehearsal, it is the real thing! Make your life happy & fulfilling....it is entirely up to you! And being a martyr isn't what it's cracked up to be.
2006-10-17 14:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage is in jeopardy. Regardless to who's right or wrong, you need professional help. Otherwise you will continue to be sad. Without a meeting of the minds you will continue to make your life short. You deserve more...and better. Seek help today.
2006-10-17 21:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you haven't have sxx for nine yr, i don't think you two are a happy couple. you both need to sit and work things out. talk about the thing that he is making you feel unhappy and vice versa.
2006-10-17 21:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advice is cheap, but for my money, either get into marriage counseling right away and turn this ghost ship of a relationship around, or, you go get counseling and start making a plan for your future (insurance, income, etc).
2006-10-17 21:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well what i think is that his just saying that his depressed just to get it his way and if he don't work and don't help you that to me it is mess up because he pro-ply haves some one ales so he wants to put all the pressured to you for he got have his own time to be with the other one and don't get to jobs because if you do trues me he will have anotere girl over and if you don't have sex for 9 years that's don't nor-mo you need help !
2006-10-17 21:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get out gurl and get out running......... when you got some distance tell him you will be back.....has soon has he is making good money and willing to furfull his duties in the bed. But tell him not to take to long cause someone that knows how to be a man might just come along and do his job for him.
2006-10-17 21:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by teneesha2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no sex in 9 years is a deal breaker ...what's up with that? i'ld have left a long time ago. I don't think your selfish i think your insane. He wants a maid not a wife.
2006-10-17 21:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by mandie_darkness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should try to tell him everything that upsets u like don't pin it all on him like ur attacking all of his faults but just tell him and if he doesn't try to understand then start yelling lol
but if u've stayed with him for that long there must've been something right so i wouldn't pick divorce so quickly
2006-10-17 21:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by DD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy somee Victoria Secret stuff. Or just sit in front of him witha giant dildo and sing Wishin you were here.
2006-10-17 21:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by David G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY IS HE DEPRESSED? WHOS IDEA WAS IT TO NOT TO HAVE SEX? WHY WOULD YOU GIVE UP THE DREAM JOB FOR A NON WORKING MAN AND THEN BE TOLD TO GET TWO JOBS? GET OUT!! I JUST CANT RELATE. CLEAN UP YOUR LIFE AND BE HAPPY!
2006-10-17 21:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋