ok. well me and this girl were best friends in middle school...and last yr we got in a huge arguement and i said somethings i regret saying to her...like how bout u just stay out of my life i cant stand and stuff like that. well she died friday in a car accident and i cant forgive myself for sayin such thing i wish i could take it all back but i cant...what should i do??
2006-10-17 14:01:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and they are cremating her because she was killed in a car accident and looked really bad...so i cant go to her grave
2006-10-17 14:10:15 · update #1
Well hun what happend in the past is nothing you can change! But you can move on with your life and make sure you don't say stuff to people that you really dont mean,even if your mad at them.Because now you know that people are only here for a short while no matter what! So what you can do that might help you get over this is write her a letter and telling her how you feel now and that you did not mean what was said in the past,and keep it in a safe place and when you feel sad or upset over anything take it out and look at it.But don't live on what you said to her the day you had your fight live on all the good times you had with her before that.And I would just like to say i am sorry to hear about her passing and the way she had to go.But god only takes people when its there time to go!Take care and I hope you the best in all this!
2006-10-17 14:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself, it takes two to argue. Had you have known that you didn't have all the time in the world to repair your argument, you two would have reconciled. She doesn't blame you for the fight, and she knows that you are sorry, and I am sure she is sorry too.
When things like this happen, it helps us realize the important things in life.
Write her a letter, or talk to her, and tell her you are sorry, that's the best you can do now. There are always going to be times in our lives that we say and do things that we regret, we need to learn from those times, before we can grow to be good people.
It's OK to forgive yourself, because i am sure she has forgiven you. Take the time you need to grieve for her. There is nothing physically that you can do. All you need is time. I promise "time will heal all wounds."
2006-10-17 21:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by calicandy27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Its eating you alive too isn't it? Guess what? It'll be there 30 years from now. Oh....not as strong. But...it'll pop up now and again. Especially when you read her parents obituaries years from now and it says "They were predeceased by their loving daughter (insert name here).
Tough sh*t kid. Let this be a lesson. You can NEVER take back words. Even if you apologize. They stay. They're out there. So...be mindful of what spews from that piehole. Helluva a lesson ain't it. Just be thankful it wasn't your Mom or dad or brother/sister huh?
2006-10-17 21:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o man girl the only thing i can tell you is you should forgive yourself that girl knows your sorry. i guess this showes you that you should watch what you say to people because they could be gone the next day i hope you forgive yourself good luck and im sorry for your lost
2006-10-17 21:13:06 · answer #4 · answered by sk8erhjk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know neither one of you ( of course) but im sure that right now shes looking down and saying that she doesnt want you to feel bad. Its not your fault that, that happened, and even though you said stuff you didnt mean to it was a while ago and im sure she forgave you, so its time to forgive yourself.
2006-10-17 21:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by Brittaney x3's Holden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her parents and ask for their forgiveness. Thats the best advice I can give.
2006-10-17 21:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by Token_Cocoa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need counciling... if you are religious talk to your pastor... You could go to her grave and sit and talk to her, like she was here, or even write her a letter... even if you don't give it to her or anyone, it makes you feel better to get it out.
good luck!
2006-10-17 21:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by next.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to someone to get some closure.
she probably knows your sorry and you need to move on because she is in a better place now
2006-10-17 21:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by jumanjifaceee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
worry about it for the rest of your life
2006-10-17 21:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋