He said I have to earn the house,etc. I have to wait 5 years for him to change his will. We have been getting along great until now. I find it hard to even look at him. I am his wife. He willed it to a community college.
2006-10-17 13:46:40 · 22 answers · asked by themantofield 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He said I kept badgering him to make a will, and he did it. That I was very poor at paying my bills, also that is why he did it.
2006-10-19 15:00:12 · update #1
Depending on the state you live in, his will could likely be invalid. Most states do not allow joint property to be willed over by one party without the approval of the spouse. If the property was gained prior to the marriage, there may be an exception...but most of the time...nope.
2006-10-17 15:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As bad as this may sound, if this is the way he feels towards you then divorce him now and take more then the house. If something were to happen to him in 4 years and 11 months you would have nothing. Now you have nothing to loose.
Afterwards take classes at the community college to earn a degree in an area you are interested in.
2006-10-17 13:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by Braveheart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave a note on the fridge
"YOU WILL GET NOTHING FOR THE NEXT 5 YEARS". Most men want to make sure their loved ones are taken care of in the event of untimely death. He couldn't have found a clearer way to let you know that he doesn't love you. Divorce him now and take HALF of EVERYTHING and he can still leave 100 percent of his 1/2 to whomever the heck he wishes.
What a jerk! You poor woman. Dump him fast and while he's still alive to feel the pain of you taking 1/2 of all assets and possibly 1/2 of his retirement.
2006-10-17 15:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a woman like you. She stayed with her man even though she knew that something wasn't right in their marriage. She also said at times she found it "hard to look at him." After 20 years of marriage, she is still miserable, and now, they are finally considering seperating. You must leave him, or both of you has to have the will to make marriage work. If both of you are stuck in the middle, it is a waste of precious time. Use this time to talk to him, and see if you two can work it out. He may have a reason, such as that he is afraid that you might leave him. I'm sure everything will turn out to be good, as everything in life. Good luck.
2006-10-17 13:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Badman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU DIDNT do anything wrong and still want to keep this marriage for whatever reason...detach yourself from him and find job so you can support yourself when he throws you out on the ditch...if he complains why you're working hard, tell him : "you made me want this, i need to eat and live too...i cant just sit here today knowing that tomorrow i'll have no roof above me and starve to death too.."
i just feel betrayed, so my response is just as harsh...better yet, GET a divorce...
2006-10-17 15:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems your husband might want to make sure you're not a gold digger, in the marriage only for money.
However, it seems a little insane to will his home to a community college.
The two of you need to talk about this, he should've discussed his will with you beforehand. Where's his respect for his wife?
2006-10-17 13:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen most states have laws giving you what is called community property. That so called will is not worth the paper it is written on. If you do not believe me talk to an attorney. He will tell you what I am telling you.
2006-10-17 14:12:30 · answer #7 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could he have a brain tumor or some other disorder undiscovered that is causing him to make these odd choices? Well, if he dies soon you have a case for a challenge of his mental state. I would contest the will.
2006-10-17 14:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cold as ice . Get a divorce and that way you may get the house sooner. Go see an attorney. He is pond life . Take my advice get a divorce and leave him and his cold a-- house . That way at least you will have a life.
2006-10-17 13:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you have some serious issues you need to work out. Run, don't walk, to the nearest couple's counseling center.......talk your issues through. He may have a very good reason for what he did....then again, he may not- he may just be acting like a d*ck.......men do that sometimes.....Good luck!!
2006-10-17 13:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋