I even took her side against my own son . She stayed with me after the split up. She remarried and started to refuse to let me and my Grandson see eachother.Her New husband is a nice man and he is always kind when they see me.I was told that she told my Grandson that I stopped loving him. I saw him the other day after 4 years and he turned his head away. I live in a State that has no Grandparents rights. My Daughter-in-law and I once were very close. and I didn't do any thing to deserve this and I think this is a form of child abuse because I am sure my Grandson wonders what he did to make me stop loving him as my Grandson and I were very close. This may have hurt him very much! How can a Mother ddo this to her own child?I am not talking about my son because this is between my ex-Daughter-inLaw and me. My son didn't mistreat her, they were just to young when they started their family. just 16 years old..Neither of them had ever had another boy or girl friend.
2006-10-17 13:45:04 · 9 answers · asked by Pamela V 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My grandson was 10 years old when his Mom split us apart. He is a teenager now.
She won't speak to me when I asked her why she cussed me and said she doesn't owe me any reason. I would never say a word against her if I ever do get to speak to my Grandson. I'd just tell him that she thought she was doing what was right for him.But I'd have to tell him that she was mistaken when she told him that I stopped loving him.
2006-10-18 05:38:19 · update #1
Oh, I wish you could talk with my sister...you two have a lot to discuss where selfish daughters-in-law are concerned. The answer is that it is your own son that can correct this situation by bringing that child to you when he has custody and that is the ONLY way. Your ex daughter in law has a mean streak. This is her little power play in life. She has obvious brain washed your grandchild...another power play. So my advice is that your only contact with the child is through your son. My sister has not had any luck with this as they are still married. I doubt it will last but for now he is trapped in a sick marriage but would miss his child if he left. Time is all you have on your side for future relationship with that child...he may grow up remembering good things about you and figure things out for himself but don't hold your breath. Your ex daughter in law is a sick, neurotic, selfish young woman...and will never change. Pray for poetic justice in this case. Good Luck.
2006-10-17 14:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry this is happening to you. I would encourage you to talk with her (perhaps invite her to lunch) and ask her. If she is not receptive to that, send a letter. I only offer as a suggestion not to be accusitory "you NEVER let me see my grandson", but perhaps..."we used to be so close, and I miss you"....She may have misinterpeted something along the line, may have heard something from someone else that is not correct, there is no telling. If you come at her tho with a manner of "how can you do this to your son..." She will go on the defensive. There are two things of value I have learned that have served me well...One was from my Mom...You get more with honey than you do with vinegar...and from Dr. Phil (of all people)...Is it more important to be right or to be happy. Good luck to you. Sorry for the long post.....
2006-10-17 14:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by Renee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very painful situation. It seems as if your ex-DIL wants to move on with her life in spite of the support you've shown or the harm that it may do or have done to her son. Unfortunately, your best link to your grandson may now be your son. If he has visitation rights or any contact with him, you may certainly ask him for some time. I wish it were different, but unless your DIL wishes to speak with you about the situation, I think you should try your son. Good luck!!
2006-10-17 14:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by phillipa_gordon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly can empathise with u. It must be almost killing you. People are strange when it comes to break ups. When people get hurt they sometimes want revenge. Maybe she thinks you would let your son see him,and she doesnt want this. If her son was very young she may want her 2nd husband only known as the father. Having gone thru a similiar experience sometimes its best to let go of the past and move on,you feel embarassed and ashamed after a breakup. KEEP TRYING SHE MAY COME AROUND.Have you spoken to her or the husband to find out why?
2006-10-17 13:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by matthehat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my sympathy - that has to be really hard for you!
She's probably so set on establishing her life with her new husband, she doesn't want any reminders of her first marriage. It really stinks, but there's probably nothing you can do if your state law doesn't have grandparent rights.
Does she have any relatives you could talk to who might be able to intervene?
2006-10-17 13:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by Judy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sux.... if he has ever threatened her, she can get a restraining order. then she has to stand up for herself and not listen to his rules. If he gets mad, so be it. If he gets violent, she can call the cops. I'd let them know about it regardless. She can always leave and go to grandma's house if you can get through the brainwashing. Try to get someone outside of the family to talk to her.
2016-05-21 22:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh you poor lady i feel for you
its so sad when grandparents get shut out. .
try to reason with her .
id beg ger if ihad to.
does your son see his baby, maybe he could help
2006-10-17 13:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by daisymayNY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be mean but you sound really concerned..........So why don't you ask her if it is really bothering you>
2006-10-17 13:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by jesscblu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
life is not easy
2006-10-17 13:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋