we always make a point to use protection, but one time we decided not to because we wanted to try it. so, i have no idea how to tell him. i've been waking up with a bad stomach ache and getting sick for three days (it's been a week since we didn't use any protection). what am i supposed to tell my boyfriend? we've been together for 2 months and as far as i know, he's never gotten a girl pregnant. plus, we're too young (i'm 18, he's 21) and i don't even know the first thing to say to him. i was gonna try the whole "baby, i'm pregnant" thing, but i decided against it. he says he loves me and when the time comes (this is SO not the time) to have a baby, he would never leave me. help, please!
2006-10-17 13:11:48 · 17 answers · asked by brokenchick06 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i have no idea if this has anything to do with anything, but when we did it, i had an orgasm... does that matter?
2006-10-17 13:19:22 · update #1
Don't stress yourself out until you know that your pregnant. It's a little too early to be experiencing those symptoms. My guess? You're paranoid about it and so your mind is playing tricks on you. Ever heard of a hysterical pregnancy?
If it turns out that you are, just tell him flat out. Discuss what you want to do, and then ask him what he thinks is best. Often, unexpected pregnancies hit guys really hard. They feel helpless, especially since they really, in the end, have no say in what happens. Make sure that he knows that you are willing to listen to what he thinks is best.
2006-10-17 13:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, always use protection unless he's been snipped. Second, it's best to not say anything until you're certain of the result. There's no point in both of you freaking out over something that's not definite. Wait until you're positive & then tell him one way or the other. If you're not then the both of you should take this "scare" as a huge warning to always use protection in the future. If you are then you've gotten yourself in to a situation involving a great deal of maturity & one that you can't "ignore" responsibility just because you want to. If he loves you then he will support you in whatever decision the two of you decide to make. If he doesn't own up to the whole thing then he was never worth the risk in the first place & you will have learned that in the hardest way.
2006-10-17 20:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by Leybai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and see if you miss your next period. If you do, take a test and make sure it's positive before you tell him anything. Don't get all worked up about something you aren't for sure about yet. If you are pregnant, you have to tell him. It would be the responsible thing to do. Yes, you guys may be young but you guys also made the decision to have unprotected sex. If you do get pregnant, you will have to accept it. Then you guys have 3 options. Keep it, adoption or abortion. You need to choose one and what you choose depends on what your beliefs are. You guys have been together for two months? Hmm...kinda early in the relationship. He could stick around or he may not. What he does, you don't have any control over. If you turn out pregnant, you'll have to have a long talk with him and figure out what will be right for you guys.
2006-10-17 20:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
According to Ben Franklin, there are 3 things that never come at a convenient time:....death, paying taxes and having children.
Im not sure from your question if youre late a week or 3 days or what.
Get a pregnancy test done first.
If its positive, then you need to have a long quiet talk with him. Best of luck.
2006-10-19 22:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! First - take a pregnancy test & make sure your are pregnant. It is HIGHLY unlikely that you are having morning sickness with only 2 weeks of pregnancy!!
Knowing him for 2 months is not long enough to know that he will never leave you. People who have been married 20 years dont know that.
Help yourself and get on the pill or something.
2006-10-17 20:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anne A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and say HEY YOU I THINK IM PREGNANT! you cant hide this from him or your families better to come out and say it now than for him or you familys to find out in a round about way and that would make them more upset. Go to your local health department of planned parenthood and get a pregnancy test. And if you are and dont want it carry the baby to term and give it up for adoption!. PLEASE use protection from now on or better yet dont have sex at all!
2006-10-17 20:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by llllll_amanda_lllllll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well obviously he's not going to leave you or so he says.So why not just tell him.I mean it's kind of important for him to know if you are right?And if you didn't want to get pregnant then why didn't you use protection.If you can't handle having a baby then you could just abort it,but that would be unfair to the baby.Look at it this way because you made a mistake that baby, who could very well have been the pride and joy or your life is dead and will never have a chance at life.
2006-10-17 20:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by lil mamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, you're not even sure if you're pregnant. Why go through the whole ordeal and get all worked up over nothing? If you have a missed period, test. If the test turns out positive, then have a talk with him.
2006-10-17 20:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by Sunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's only been a week, then you shouldn't be having morning sickness already. The better question is, "How am I supposed to tell my boyfriend that I think I have the flu?" Buy a pregnancy test...you'll see.
2006-10-17 20:14:53 · answer #9 · answered by WonderingWanderer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to talk to him about this, I mean you have already shared this most beautiful moment with him.
You are probably NOT pregnant like most of the other answers have shown. So wait, get a test, and talk to him (either way)!
2006-10-17 20:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by Marc926 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋