I'm 31 And Want To Have A Baby..Any Advice On How I Can Get Pregnant Quickly?

Question

Hi there,

I'm 31 and my hubby is 38. We are going to try and have our first child. I have a 28 day cycle and it's pretty regular. I just started my period on October 13 and I have been told to make sure we have sex on day 12 of my cycle and every other day afterwards. What else can I do to try and make sure this happens quickly? It's funny, we have waited for years for the "right time" and now that we've decided to have a baby I can't wait to get pregnant! I don't want to psyche myself up too much (I think that could screw things up). But I do want to have the best possible chance at conceiving quickly. I'd appreciate any advice. Especially from those who concieved their first child in their early 30's. A lot of my friends had kids years ago and I feel old because I'm just starting now. I hope 31 isn't too old to start having babies..

Answer 1

Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.

2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.




also:
There's a lubricant called Pre-seed or Pro-seed or something that's supposed to help a lot. I've heard many pregnant women swear by it. And, of course, sex when you're ovulating, though sex outside of those times couldn't hurt either. Other than that, it's just up to your body and his sperm. You can try tracking ovulation, but I wouldn't count that as an easy way to do it.

Answer 2

I go with the vast majority of the advice given, with the exception at this stage of ovulation kits, temping etc. As a regular 28 day'er (assuming you have not been on the pill of course!, which would explain the regularity) for you are likely to be most fertile from day 12 to day 20 - so yes plenty of sex at that time and try not to stress. Only if you have been ttc for up to a year with no success should you really think of o/v kits and temping, esp at your age as 31 is nothing. I'm 10 yrs older and ttc'ing - now that's ancient! If you've come off the pill recently however then apart from the fact that it may take a while for your fertility to return and to establish just how long your cycle is going to be, then firstly wait at least 3 months after coming off the pill before ttc (if you can wait that long!) and then if the cycles have been regular, the general rule of thumb is to go for it 14 days before your next period is due, for one week. Good luck !

Answer 3

My aunt used one of those ovulation kits and at 32 successfully got pregnant. I'm 22 and when my husband and I tried to conceive it took about 4 months. The only thing that worked for me was relaxing and not thinking about it. I followed the 12th day thing and it didn't work for me (day 7 was my lucky day - I kept everything on my calendar lol.) Good luck and 31 is not "too old"!

Answer 4

I suggest buying an ovulation kit at the drugstore. They are inexpensive (about $10-$15) and you can test for 7 days for your LH surge. Once you get a positive that your LH surge has come, you are supposed to ovulate sometime after that within 24-36 hours. I've been told by my doctor that after you get a positive result from the ovulation detector, wait exactly 24 hours and then get busy!

Answer 5

To get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.

After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.

Answer 6

Well, what helped my mother conceive me on her second "try" was that she was calm and queit and didnt eat any meat or fatty foods for a few days before she tried. She slept, meditated and read romance books. Also, when your going to try to conceive, be in a good mood, or at least try. It really helps! But make sure to be aware that even if it doesnt happen on the first few try's, keep at it, and soon, you may get pregnant. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Don't stress .... and don't try too hard .... or you're bound to fail .... just let nature take it's course .... and I guess hubby will have to help a little to ..... it depends somewhat on how long you may have been on birth control ... is it all out of your system ... a hundred and one things come into play ... just enjoy the moments and don't look at it as just a means to an end ... I mean don't look at it as a job you have to do .... enjoy each other and be relaxed ... and Good Luck :)

Answer 8

hi there i am 31 also and also tring to concieve although have just started, i found heaps of info on web, just type in ovulation dates or fertile days in google search and there will be all different web sites that will work out what days to have sex etc, i like www.askdramy.com site the best, good luck..... make sure you have fun in the mean time...ha ha

Answer 9

He should take bees pollen and zinc
You could take dong quai
hawthorne berry is supposed to be good for both partners, too.
I've read about taking robitussin, too to make your cervical mucus really good for the sperm when you're ovulating.
Lastly, SEX! 31 is good, it's hard not to get psyched, especially reading about everything on yahoo answers!
...I've also read a lot of people swearing by pre-seed. I think it's lubricant or something, but that is for sure the name to google- I'll find it for you...

Answer 10

Have sex from now till next month. Have sex more than once a day. Forget about having sex every other day....everyday you have a better chance, and even if you do it more than once a day is better yet. I'm sure your husband won't mind more than once a day. Good Luck, and Best Wishes.

Hope you have a great day!

Answer 11

Don't feel bad. A lot of women are having babies much later than you. My friend is 36 with a two-year-old! As for getting pregnant the "quick" way...there really is only one way, ya know ;) Have fun!