Been together for 5 yrs, have 2 kids, tells me he feels the same..Says he doesn't know what to do, he has 3 kids with her, doesn't want anyone to get hurt (impossible I know)...I have never felt this strong a connection with someone, how should or can I let him go....And to all you opinionated people, no one twisted his arm to come to me!
2006-10-17 12:51:59 · 31 answers · asked by missing_something 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are in a mess aren't you? I am assuming when you say you have 2 kids, they both are his and yours. This is not going to be easy for you but you know that you are wasting your life, you already have wasted 5 years and given your children a daddy who is unavailable. My mission now is to make every woman/man who thinks that she/he can make this married man/woman hers/his, think twice. I have been there. Wasted 2 years of my life to be labeled an adultress(and a well deserved label too) for a man who never had any intention of leaving his wife. I too felt this strong connection and it absolutely killed me to see this relationship end. Does it still hurt? You bet it does but I know deep in my heart that what I was doing was wrong! You look at your children and show them that their mom has some respect for herself so that they will grow up and learn respect for themselves. Now do the right thing and make this right. The best of luck for you and your children.
2006-10-17 13:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1
2016-05-08 07:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Together 5 years and 2 kids? Does that mean you had 2 of his children or are you married to someone else?
Listen youre living a fairy tale. Put yourself in his wifes shoes. Would you like to be her? He has made up his mind. The only thing you can do is leave and dont look back. Then he can decide on his own what to do. If those 2 kids are his - he owes you some finnacial support - get it in writing.
Sorry he is not going to leave his wife. The chooice is up to you.
2006-10-17 13:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by mren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ms I checked out your previous questions and I see that one says can a guy have a sexual partner for five years and not love her ? Can it be that you have already made up your mind that your guy is in this relationship with you for purely his own sexually gratification .Ms If he was intending to make a life with you he would have made the break from his old life already after all having his child should have been enough incentive to break free .I'm not insinuating that he doesn't love you but he has a connection with his other family and he isn't strong enough to break it and probably never will. If you can sweet lady break away clean tell him that you don't want to see him again , you know in your heart that you two cant be just friends it will always be more than that with you two. In time he will be a memory ever so treasured but you wont destroy his life and yours will return to relative normality
MS It will hurt but be strong and look to better days
2006-10-17 13:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, did you say you have two kids OR are the two kids the two of yours? If he has kids with both women, he's playing his cards... So, you'd have to make him come to a conclusion of who he'd end it with and who he wants to spend his life with.
Now, if he doesn't have kids with you and just with this other woman... it will probably be very difficult to end the relationship. The best thing, although the wife will get hurt, is to be honest and upfront... let her know what has been going on. Then, you and this man can be together if that's what he wants... but he is in a tough position because of the children.
2006-10-17 12:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
murder? (THIS IS A JOKE)
seriously, he is not leaving her. otherwise he would have done so. He does not want to have anyone get hurt, but he is hurting you, he is hurting his wife, and he is hurting his kids. This is his issue to become honest with everyone about what he wants.
I think you are best to get rid of him, because he is playing both you and her.
Because you have kids together it will be harder to end it with him, because you have the connection of your kids.
I suggest you tell him you need to end it. Then whenever he is there to see the kids, make sure you have other family or friends around so you are not tempted. Do not talk to him on the phone for longer than 5 minutes at a time. Get out there and date other people.
2006-10-17 12:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's undesirable to be the third person besides, i recommend you are able to purely be wrecking somebody else's love existence/family contributors, i could say the guy isn't sturdy besides, and who's conscious if hes gonna unload that woman and pass decrease back to his spouse or get married to the girl and then have an affair back with somebody else. that's available that he might desire to truthfully love the girl, yet he cant probable love his spouse on an identical time,because of the fact he's already no longer LOVING his spouse by ability of having an affair
2016-10-02 09:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He doesn't know what to do". POOR BABY -" I don't want anyone to get hurt". Well NEWSFLASH --Sounds like to me he knows what to do, He's STAYING WITH HIS WIFE isn't he?He doesn't want ANYONE to get hurt-ANYONE IS HIS WIFE AND THEIR KIDS. And HELL NO no one twisted his arm to have EXTRA SEX ON THE SIDE!!! GIVE ME A BRAKE!!!You Have settled for LEFT_OVERS--SCRAPS He KNOWS HES PLAYING A FOOL. And as long as you allow it to continue IT WILL. Because believe me he has another 5 years worth EXCUSES to tell you!! He doesn't even think much about the children he had with you- under the circumstances he should have told his wife that he has a total of 5 children-and tell the children they have siblings.With all this time and children involved you should put everything on the table-What do you have to lose????GO file for CHILD SUPPORT that's one way his wife will find out -right through the mail!!That is the child's RIGHT to have support from their FATHER Not yours to keep away,Whats done is done the only thing left is for you to fix it and make it right for YOUR kids,Once you start a new life you will see that almost all answers giving are the same.
2006-10-17 15:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by Sally 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does his wife know? I bet if she found out there would be no question.
Maybe you should turn the whole situation around. What if you got a boyfriend? Would he leave you? How would he feel if you were not faithful to him?
If you have been "together" for five years clearly he has not been faithful to you. I mean come on...you know he has sex with his wife right? You're not that stupid are you?
Anyway, my feeling is that relationships built on lies, dishonesty, and unfaithfulness are doomed. As far as I'm concerned you deserve each other and when his wife divorces him, sues him for alimony and child support, gets the house and the car, and all you get is a lying bastard that will be your just reward.
2006-10-17 13:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by Misty B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am one of them " Opinionated people" when it come to someone cheating and YOU KNOWING that he is married are one of the lowest forms of cheater. And you actually had kids with this maggot? What are you teaching them by your actions? Or do you even care as long as your happy. Of course no one twisted his arm...I am sure he has a thousand reasons why he is cheating on his wife....and a thousand more why he wont leave her for you. You my dear are a S lut plain and simple. I feel for ALL the kids that are getting put in the middle of this crap. Just keep him...that way no one Else's lives will be screwed up by you or him.
2006-10-17 13:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by oldman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋