2006-10-17 12:28:46 · 30 answers · asked by KingKong 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
takes a while
if you mean "in love" as in "i think about you day and night etc etc" that is your limbic system in overdrive, churning out endorphines and other hormones that make you feel good, and "in Love".
love itself takes time to develop, is based on trust, understanding, mutual honesty, exploration and gives you a steady glow from the furnace vs. the flash in the pan of infatuation.
PEOPLE: Remember this: the "in love" feeling is infatuation, which cannot last. It can actually lead to deeper understanding followed by love, but doesn't always go that way. Often this feeling goes over the top to become obsession.
2006-10-17 12:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by kerangoumar 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well first there are three types of love. A "crush","true love" or a physical attraction. So often there are confused in these times for I truly believe that the words "I love you" have lost their meaning when they are used so often and freely. I am currently in love and for everyone it is different but time will tell as it does with all things. As sign could be waking up with a smile after you spent the night talking to your loved one, constant thinking about them (they don't have to be naked) and just finding peace that they love you back. But ultimately you will be the one to decide just give it time.
2006-10-17 14:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking the question. I think that that is good. You may be. You may want to be.
Have you asked this of yourself in the past or this this the first time?
Are you very young?
It is wonderful to love. It is affirming when you are loved back.
There usually is not a reason to quickly decide.
Advice: Wait and attend to what the others are saying.
You want to be with the loved one.
You feel happy in his/her presence.
You don't want to say no. ( Here, lies DANGER)
Love does not require the loss of self, just the sharing of self for however long that may be.
I mean to offer what little wisdom I have accumulated and still encourage more of what we all need, love.
2006-10-17 12:55:47 · answer #3 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you don't have to ask this question.
When you are certain of how your partner feels about you.....just like you are certain of what your first name is.
When you don't question, wonder, or worry about it.
If you feel butterflies in your stomach, don't mistake this for love. That is your body going into overdrive with the production of norepinphrine, dopamine, and endorphins. They are chemicals that give you a rush or a "high". It preceeds love, but doesn't always evolve into it. Sometimes it's merely infatuation.
Love means unconditional respect, acceptance , trust, and empathy. It is more relaxed and comfortable than exciting and thrilling.
2006-10-17 12:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree if you have to ask you're not. Being in love with someone makes you feel like you can't live without them. Love is unconditional. You think about them a lot, appreciate them, get excited to see them, day dream about the weekend you had together, and you want to see them constantly. Those are just a few of the symptoms.
2006-10-17 12:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because the person u think u love u will know if u love them if u feel u cant be away from them for two minuits cuz it seems to long or if u have an arguement and u know ur right but u still feel guilty u know that ur in love thats how i feel and i am madley in love gud luk i hope u r cuz its the best thing ever
2006-10-17 22:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuddles is right. If you have to ask, then you're not. If you are in love, you will absolutely know it. The person will overwhelm your thoughts and you will think they are the best person on earth. Anyone else you meet will be compared to them. You won't be able to stand waiting until you see them again, etc.
2006-10-17 12:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by johnlb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have strange feeling in the pit of your stomach, butterflies etc, you feel dizzy at the mean mention of their name, you can't wait to see them, you feel you want to spend the rest of your life with that one person, have children together, grow old and die in each others arms. But love has so many other meanings. It's not when you think they are perfect that makes you love them, it's seeing their imperfections and loving them even more.
And you don't decide who you fall in love with, we all have this image in our heads of our ideal partner, but how many of us actually end up with that dream lover?
2006-10-21 06:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by pampurredpuss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a feeling, in the pit of your stomach, a knowledge that is certain that they are your future. Its not always about butterflies and tummy flips when they look at you, although maybe at the start, but that wears off. But there's still that feeling, a total contentment when they are with you, physically or emotionally.
2006-10-18 00:36:08 · answer #9 · answered by hazei_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are using the term as though it is something one may enter into, as opposed to an experiencing of self, from within oneself, I would suggest that if you think you are, then you probably are... in love that is.
2006-10-17 13:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by docjp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋