My current beau of a few months, as we should say, was just told that his ex was 6mos pregnant. Possibilites are that its not his. Dates don't match. I don't know if I should walk away from the situation now just in case it is his or stand by his side and give him support thru this hard situation. Help!
2006-10-17 12:22:13 · 10 answers · asked by caasi2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Him & his ex divorced and she moved in with her boyfriend who left her. He didn't know about the pregnancy up until this weekend.
2006-10-17 12:28:55 · update #1
paternity tests need to be done. Can you wait til the baby is born or can your press for some amniotic fluid to be taken and dna tested to see if your beau's the father. I would stand by him until I knew one way or the other but I can see that if you have to wait for three months or so til the baby is born, your three months further involved with this man and your feelings and heart are more committed. Can you wait for the dna test or can you press for one early on so you know where you all stand. Is she saying that he's the father also, because that can throw a spanner in the works also. AND SHUT THE F*** UP FLA CHIC, YOUR FULL OF SHYTE...... this womans not co dependant you whiny little pice of crab shyte, she's asking a legit question you bent over, sorry @rsed sack of horse shyte.........IS FLA CHICH SHORT FOR FLACID......I THINK SO.
2006-10-17 12:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a wait and see attitude, be glad it's not you that's having a baby and play rope-a-dope til, he stops trying to paralyze your situation, some times there are no clear choices for the guy and to freeze the situation til more information comes up, your stuck and the guy always manipulation the new information first so just average what you have and what you will get and see the difference, no gain no pain, your characters speak well of you to offer support, good luck, some great guys are hard to land, they flap all over like fish out of water, if he's beautiful go for it, drive a wedding ring in to his heart, they suck up better when they know you care, muushy stuff ~(^_^)~
2006-10-17 19:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by bev 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this guy or even love him you should definately stay in the relationship.. If what u say is true that the child is not his then you should have nothing to worry about. If you feel that the child is his and you dont feel that close to him then you might wanna end it because this situation is difficult. Hope this helps!!
2006-10-17 19:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him how he feels about the situation. you could wait around and see but if the baby is his just better move on and stay friends if possible unless you are ready for an instant family and an ex that never goes away.
2006-10-17 19:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait and see... like you say, its possible its not his... and if its not, you will lose a good thing. (depending how happy you both are)
And if it is his, and decide to stay with him, support him in any way... be by his side, and love him like any other man.
If its not, then you will not have to worry about it at all... after finding out of course.
My main point is, no matter what, if you like him, you two can work things out!
2006-10-17 19:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by precious1982 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't been with him long enough to deal with this kind of drama, and this is going to be 18 years of drama if it is his child. He obviously wasn't single for very long, that is another negative on the relationship. You can support him as a friend without walking into a relationship with someone who needs to get his own life straight.
2006-10-17 19:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tough one, i really dont have a correct answer, if you love him and it doesnt matter, stay and support him, if you have mixed feelings then maybe you should step back awhile until you get things straight.
Do you no if the girl confronted him about it?, or do you think thats just an excuse for him?
Dont jump to conclusions though, get answers, and the chioce is yours to make, right or wrong.
2006-10-17 19:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by Bridgette ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try talking it out with him and stay if u really trust him. he might be depending on ur support, dont make a move until u sure of it, coz it might break your heart even more.
best of luck
2006-10-17 19:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by lovegal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God.....another whiney, complaining, co-dependent, insecure girl!!! He is a looser......you are a looser! The best advise is to clean up your act and make better decisions in life like self-esteem and boundary issues. You are on the road, sweetie.....for a miserable life!
2006-10-17 19:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to add more details i think you should support him.ask him what he wants to do like if he is going back to hi ex or something like that.but i think if the baby is his you should forget about it because your going to have a step son/daughter that wasnt planned on.when did you start dating????remember if the baby is his and you want to stay you are going to have to deal with his ex.
2006-10-17 19:25:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋