I have currently been kicked out of my life by my significant other, I have two children with her and thought we were getting along ok. To me, it seems that all of our recent problems started when she asked me if on one of my off days I could watch the kids. I lived with her so it was no problem, she said she just wanted to work out, this was about 4 mo. ago, about a month ago, she stared staying out till 6 a.m. and had started coming home with alcohol on her breath. I obviously reacted to it, she said she was giving me a taste of my own medicine. I fish, and I take it seriously, on my off days I'll put 18 hrs. on the water, that's I'm sure part of it, but she keeps telling me I'm an *** and have to change, She tells me I treat her like crap, but when I ask how, she doesn't say anything, What do I do, I want to save my family????
2006-10-17 12:07:52 · 8 answers · asked by kwar1213 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Her tit for tat response is incredibly childish, and she needs to take responsiblity for that. I think it would be a very good idea for you both to go to counselling to talk through this issues and find out how to make eachother happy. Ok maybe she was upset with the amount of time you spend away but she needs to take some of the blame for not communicating with you and for trying to get her own back. You need to learn to work together and share your felings about what you want. If your partner refuses to go for counselling or she won't acknowledge that she has a part to play in working through this, then sadly I don't see much hope for you guys. I suggest you go to counselling alone even if she won't go, and talk it all through there. I've been through similar issues with my ex partner who always turned the tables on me, and it can be very difficult to resolve without a lot of maturity and commitment. My heart goes out to you.
2006-10-17 21:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u both need to do some changing here. shes acting out because u are always fishing and its not fun being home alone with kids all the time and shes trying to show u this. u should be at home with her taking care of your responsibilities not out bloody fishing. u are a dad now and to go off fishing like that is very selfish. u are gonna have to compromise here if u want to save the relationship. maybe u can set aside 1 day for fishing, eg sundays but the rest of the time u spend with her and your children, being a partner and a dad like u should be. maybe u could be more considerate and help her out around the house to show u appreciate her and care. looking after kids and doing all the housework is very hard work and u buggering off fishing is making her angry and resentful and i dont blame her. u are not a single man with no responsibilities anymore! stop being selfish, sit and talk things through. help her out more. be a man!
2006-10-17 13:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by crophilia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good thing for you to do would to reevaluate the entire situation. When you are in relationship with someone, the other persons' feelings are supposed to matter to you. Calling names is a no no! I was once dating an avid fisherman, it did put a strain on our relationship, but I learned to deal with it because I knew he was having clean fun. I sometimes would sacrifice what I wanted to do just to be with him. You woman sounds like she is putting on all of the selfish moves. You need to decide it that relationship is something that you want to be involved with for the rest of your life.
2006-10-17 12:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication! Firstly it sounds like you both need to change for the sake of your relationship and for you kids. Maybe some relationship counselling could help. Suggest it to your girlfriend, even if you don't go at least she will know you are taking things seriously.....it may even prompt her to be more open with you......good luck
2006-10-17 12:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by littlebabygem 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both need to go find some one to talk to who knows what they are on about
2006-10-17 12:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by sam h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, she sounds confused and will make you miserable. I don't know what to advise aboutth echildren - I understand you'll want to see them, but you are in the same situation of hundreds of others who had children witht he wrong partner.
2006-10-17 12:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 hours annoying the fish? ( I dont know what they have ever done to you) Sounds to me as though she has a very good point
2006-10-17 12:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you have to compromise a little. Hope you can get more here: http://theresa.wee.googlepages.com/home
2006-10-17 20:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by Theresa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋