is everybody scared of giving birth?

Question

first time, sometimes i think i will be able to handle it, and others i am really scared, know its a bit late now, as i am 35 weeks pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
is this a normal feeling?

not includin the men thanks : - )

Answer 1

That is very normal, don't worry you will be in a different world when in labor. Your body releases hormones that put you in a different state, and make you not really remember. that way you will have more children.....The more you are stressed about it the worse it will be. I was really scared, and all tense, I couldn't dialate even after hours of hard labor....I got an epidural which aloud me to relax and dialate. Just try to stay as calm and relaxed as possible. Don't be afraid to take something to relax you...I wanted to go natural but oh well it will ever turn out exactly like you want it to. Just don't freak out, let your body do what it needs to....Good Luck!

Answer 2

Quite normal to be scared. The first time I was scared because I didn't know what it would be like and the next time I was scared because I did know! Seriously, I'm 4ft 10 and built like a 12 year old - I did it both times with only gas and air. The pain is almost unbearable but as soon as the baby's out the pain disappears and you're instantly skinny again which is wierd. Having kids is the best thing that I ever did.

Answer 3

Absolutely. I was torn between being excited for my son to come and absolute terror at the thought of delivering him. Truth be told, when it is actually happening, you have too much else to concentrate on to be scared. You just do what you have to do to deliver your baby, and soon enough it is all over and you have a new baby to take care of. Now I am pregnant with number 2 (on purpose) so it can't have been that bad if women choose to do it more than once. Don't worry, and a book I found great is called
"I'll Never Have Sex with You Again!: Tales from the Delivery Room" by Larry Bleidner and Irene Zutell. It is only about $12 from Amazon and it has all sorts of hilarious stories about deliveries that can help you laugh about the situation and ease your fears a little.

Best wishes for an easy delivery and a healthy baby!

Answer 4

Everyone must experience some form of anxiety before the birth of the first child. We all know it hurts - but don't know who much, or what to expect.

I was scared, not of the pain, but of something happening to my baby. I was worried that I would die during the birth. But when the labour really set it, most of my fears dissipated.

Worrying is normal for every first time mother. Just try to relax and enjoy the time to yourself towards the end of your pregnancy. This will be las t chance you have time to you!

Good luck with the birth, I am sure everything will be fine.

Answer 5

I dont know about other people... but I am 36 weeks... first child and I can honestly say... no.. I am NOT scared. I am more scared of having to raise a child for the next 18 years than I am about having to go through 1 day of pain.

Honestly, pain is the last thing on my mind. I am more scared of my daughter being still born or having something wrong with her... pain just isnt that big of a deal to me.

Answer 6

Yes it is normal to feel this way, most people are scared when they dont know exactly what to expect but my mum was not one of the bravest people around and she had 6 of us. All I can say is if giving birth is really that bad then no-one would go for a second one. Ps Try not to listen to other peoples experience of this cos it will make you feel worse. When I had my first one all I had was backache and only used the fresh air and I am only a small framed 5'1, I had a second child................good luck hope all goes well for you!

Answer 7

I feel exactly the same way. I'm not scared about being pregnant, or of raising a baby... but I am freaked about the whole labor thing. And defintiely, once you're pregnant, there's no going back. So I guess I'll just deal with it too. The only thing is that I remind myself that millions of women do this - and it's been going on for thousands of years.... so I should be OK with my one little baby.

Good luck!

Answer 8

I know how you feel. I'm pregnant with my first as well and I'm 24 weeks tomorrow. I keep asking everyone because the thought is also terrifying me, but I keep trying to think, "OK, the outcome will totally outweigh the pain, the outcome will totally outweigh the pain..." or "If it were really that bad, no one would have more than one child." Then, I go back to, "The outcome will totally outweigh the pain." LOL

Of course it'll be painful and uncomfortable, but I think it's mostly the unknown that's freaking all us first-time mommy-to-be's out.

Good luck and CONGRATS!

Answer 9

Well to answer your question, every woman who has delivered a baby is scared to death, you only hear what other women are saying about their experiences, but you can and will be able to handle it. I have been in the OB room when new moms deliver and at first they panic until the body takes over. It will come like second nature. Just remember to breath and focus on something.

Answer 10

I'm a man and i'll give you a serious answer.....my wife was petrified of giving birth to our first child (we have 2). 1st was emergency ceasarean and second natural with suction.

I'll not lie she/me were both apprehensive/scared about the birth but after the event nothing mattered....you will forget about any pain or anxiety, all that matters is the life you have created.

Don't get me wrong its easy for me to say this BUT i am echoing my wifes words, you will forget very quickly what has gone before. During the birth of my first child we were only having one kid (or so i was told 24hrs into the labour), we now have 2 beautiful children.

Enjoy.......good luck!