last month i dated a guy (he's 19, i'm18) for 2 weeks ( we met online n were in contact online for 2.5 months, then we started dating in person). During the 2 weeks we dated, i got raped by him on the 3rd and 4rth days. I didn't want to have sex, i was a virgin, He pressured me in to sex. However when he was having sex with me, i didn't fight back, i didn't scream, i just said "no" n "stop", n after sex i cried a bit. But that's it. I again continued dating him, again he forced him self on me n raped me again, yet i didn't fight back. I didn't broke up with him either . Then, since sex was all he wanted, we had sex again 2 more times, but during these times i no longer said no, i was not participating in sex, meaning i would just lay there n he would do his thing. It didn't feel ne thing to me. I did it becuz i knew that's wat he wanted, i wanted to keep him happy, becuz had i said no he would break up with me. But he did ne way, after the 2nd week. there's more in to this, plz wait..
2006-10-17 11:46:37 · 6 answers · asked by kitXcat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he broke up with me at the end of the 2nd week, he slapped me in the face 2 times, that's when i reported him to police, telling them i was raped.
He got charged, n there is going to be a court day within few months. However i think may be it was my fault. I stayed in relationship with him, so may be i should drop the charges. I don't want him to to jail, he did hurt me a LOT, but i feel guilty about doing this to him.
wat should i do? drop the charges?
2006-10-17 11:48:34 · update #1
No, don't drop the charges. I'm assuming it's true, that your side of the story is the one and only version.
Keep in mind that if he has a trial and you have to like testify or face him it will be hard. However it won't be impossible.
You will feel better about yourself having dealt with it as opposed to pretending nothing happened. It was not your fault, a guy has no right to do that to you. It was a mistake to stay with him but everyone makes mistakes, don't blame yourself.
On top of it all maybe he will be sentenced to counseling and that could help him not do that to someone else. Think about it, maybe he had already done that to someone else and if she had reported him to the authorities then nothing would have happened to you. You could potentially be saving someone else from having to deal with the pain you dealt.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-17 11:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by kuttie.mcpretty 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well first of all you need to go see a shrink.When he was forcing himself on you you told him NO and STOP,,you clearly made it apparent that you didn't want to have sex with him and he continued with it.That is rape and he shouldn't get away with it.Why did you continue to date him after wards?I am not a lawyer but you should have reported it immediately,and stopped seeing him
2006-10-17 11:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No means no! There are no if, ands, or buts about it.
Good luck! Know that you're family of "sisters" are out here waiting to hear how it goes. You're in my prayers.
2006-10-17 11:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by Joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not drop the charges do you want him to do this to other girls hes sick and stay away from him
2006-10-17 11:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say what?.. rape is rape even if u naked u say no..it is no..abuse is abuse u get so much as slapped once its abuse or even harsh name..called..dont drop the charges please...
2006-10-17 11:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't u stay strong sistar
2006-10-17 11:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋