2006-10-17 11:40:32 · 18 answers · asked by TRACER 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Of course I get to write the dissent yet again...some days I fell like Sandra Day O'Conner when she was still a justice...ah the good ol' days.
I believe long distance relationship can work, it's hard work but it can work.
The very first and most important thing is trust, with out it don't even bother. It's all going to hell in a hand basket. If you trust each other and can be honet with each other then yes it will work. Work out a call schedule and keep to it. trust each other to commit to the call schedule, I know, I know, asking a gay man to commit even to a call schedule is like asking for a pint of blood and your right testicle, but it gives both of of you a chance to communicate...which brings me to number two...(smooth ain't I?).
Communication is key for long distanbce relationships. it allows you to voice feelings and ask questions. Sometimes hearing their voice is enough some times it isn't. But It also allows you to work out dates him going to see you, you going to him. Guess what the next paragraph is about?
#3 Visitting each other. it doesn't have to be a week long visit it can be as simple as a week end. if you have a 3 day weekend, get down to that Greyhound station and hop on a bus to him. or if he lives cross country...well you get my point. Point is see each other, make an effort to see each other.
I know this works because me and partner have the same thing going on he lives in Jersey I live in DC. But we make time for each other, we also have the optional open relationship, but it is purely optional, we have that arangement only because we both know we have libido's souped up with high performance racing fuel.
2006-10-17 12:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by Tsar 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I believe distance makes the heart grow wiser.
What kind of distance are you talking about? A long distance relationship? Someone who is gone on a trip for a few days, weeks, months? If there is a connection of the heart to begin with, it may grow or weaken, just depends on what life throws at you.
Do you want the heart to grow fonder?
Wisdom of the heart comes in knowing how to handle the distance, how to make choices about the distance, and growing in what you have learned about yourself, your heart, and the direction you want that part of your life to take.
Can distance work? Sure it can. For awhile. But if it's worth it, eventually the distance will be overcome.
2006-10-17 11:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the individual. My boyfriend and I just broke up, he lives in the States and I currently live in Australia. I do think that for some people long distance relationships work, because both partners are commited, and if there is enough trust and communication, then it can work. Recently I read an article on how many couples have to live apart because of work commitments, and they manage to organise themselves to meet, spend time together on the phone or online, and the passion is hightened because of time spent apart. So, it depends on the compatability of the people involved. If there are fundamental differences to begin with, such as trust issues, then it is more difficult. I personally do not think it matters, distance can be created in a relationship even if one sees the person every day. So I guess it depends on the character of the people involved.
2006-10-17 14:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Orditz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my gf online, i was living in the UK, she was living in the US.
We got to be good friends, then great friends, then before we knew it, we were more than friends and crazy in love with eachother..and living 4000 miles apart!
We carried on a trans-atlantic relationship for 2 years (with visits as often as possible), then she finally moved here to the UK and we got married this year :-)
But in answer to your question,
No..distance does not make the heart grow fonder, but it can make love grow stronger.
There's nothing like distance to test a relationship!
2006-10-17 12:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on if you had a good relationship with that person or not before they left. For me and my girl, yes. Being away from someone you truly love makes you realize how important they are to you and how much you need them. With everything we go through and all the things we have to face and fight for, i don't think we would have been as strong as we are now if we were around each other everyday.
2006-10-17 13:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If your heart is fond already you just miss the other person. If you were not already fond it won't change that. I guess if you were already fon but didn't realize it, it might make you realize it and think you got fonder.
2006-10-17 11:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it does. The location also makes the emotional distance seem twice as far
2006-10-17 16:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the long distance relationship thing. Doesn't work.
2006-10-17 12:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by Cichlid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say Yes. It's not good to be around each other all the time. You need to beable to miss each other a little. Not for too long though.
2006-10-17 11:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....it makes the love light burn out....long distance relationships very, very, very seldom work out.
2006-10-17 11:43:36 · answer #10 · answered by Stugots 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋