i have a friend right and she keeps teasing me how i have a small bust size and to tell u the truth her's aren't that big either. but it's just that their a bit bigger than mine. I'm a 32A. It took me forever to get to like them like they are and i keep ignoring what she keeps saying to me. it's like she teases me and i go i don't mind i like them now. and then she responds by saying something like eww man that is so stupid, how can u like small busts. and i get so pissed of and i tell her that but she just doesn't seem to understand. i'm a very open person and i keep telling to shut up about it. when i finally begin to like my bust she starts making fun of me in front of everybody and most of the time i say what i think and i say i really don't care how small or big they are and most people agree with me but her. and sometimes i take her with me to go shopping and when igo to the bra's section and i look at all the small sizes she starts laughing. I feel like strangling her. help!!!!!
2006-10-17 11:35:28 · 49 answers · asked by paige_luna_pearl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ignore it
2006-10-17 11:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd hate to see what your enemies are like if this is an example of friendship! This does not seem like a healthy friendship. A little bit of ribbing every now and again is normal, but when it's continuous it takes on an element of cruelty. You need to evaluate whether this friendship is making you happy - clearly it isn't. Therefore you need to bite the bullet and tell her that it has gone much too far and really upsets you, and that's not the way a friend should make you feel, so if she continues then it's clear she does not want to be a friend to you and it has to end. You need to put your foot down and make it clear that you are serious and if she continues you have to walk away, otherwise you won't get any respect. I know it may seem tough but surely you can do better than that, and even if you can't you're better off without someone like that in your life. Be strong and make her realise that you want a friend, not an arrogant and vindictive little cow. You deserve better.
2006-10-17 11:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by John P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could try ignoring her! She sounds very immature and is probably only saying these things because she gets a reaction out of you. Good for you that you tell her to shut up, a person less strong than you could be seriously affected by this so called friend's taunts. If you really can't stand it any longer pull her to one side and tell her once and for all to stop teasing you, maybe she doesn't realise that it bothers you that much. If after that she still won't quit, it might be the time to start looking for more decent friends.......
2006-10-17 12:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by littlebabygem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like a lot of what I went through before I got implants! I love my boobs now but never felt comfortable before my surgery. But anyway, point being, I probably never would have felt that way if I wouldn't have been teased so much when I was younger. I don't regret my surgery because I am comfortable now, but, I regret not standing up for myself so I am glad that you do, AND, I am really glad you feel comfortable with your chest the size that it is. And I say it sounds like your friend is TOTALLY insecure about her chest size, I had a really close friend that did the same thing, we both wore padded bras ALL the time and she made fun of me for doing it when she did the same thing. Fun times! Anyway, I say, ditch your negative friend and surround yourself with people that love and support you for being exactly the way you are right now!
2006-10-17 11:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia S 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I used to be a 32AA, then suddenly went up to a 36B. Might not sound like much but I am small across the back which makes it look like I have a big bust. Dont go to the lingerie dept with her and just think she may be bigger but if hers suddenly get bigger she will probably be jealous of yours. Ps hers will sag long before yours and she'll be tucking them into her waistband! lol
2006-10-17 11:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by mistickle17 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still friends with this little person? I had the same situation when I was younger and then all of a sudden it's the opposite. As long as you are happy with you, and you want to still be friends with this girl, just continue to do the same thing. Ignore her and just let the comments blow in the breeze. I think it's cool that you like how you are. She should be so lucky to have such a cool friend......
2006-10-17 11:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by It's Been Cool 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this girls is jelous of you for other things you have, maybey your prettier than her or have more money ect, and jelous people love to put others down just to make themselves feel better, i bet she wants to be just like you! when your next out shopping with her try on 2 different tops one really nice and one a not as nice (but not completley hedious) askes her which ones better - i bet she doesnt tell you to get the really nice one!
you dont need friends that are jelous of you or want to put you down, mates arent suposed to be like that, i would chuck her - im sure you have plenty of other friends!!!
2006-10-17 11:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by misyid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love yourself wotever size and shape u are and u will always be happy with yourself. she's obviously not.
next time she tries to belittle u in public, say out loud, you are so childish, your bust aint all that big either and i would rather have someone love me with my small bust than want me for a big bust. is that all u think about? jeez u are so shallow and childish!
make her look stupid a few times and im sure she will shut up.
2006-10-17 14:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by crophilia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people often try to make others feel insecure and small when they fell like that. so talk to her about calmly and try your best to explain your self and your emotions. and try to complement her. i know it sounds stupid but sometimes it works. and if that still doesn't work then don't speak to her. just gradually start ignoring everything word that comes out of her mouth. don't respond. she may get the message. if she doesn't. leave her completely. she's not worth it.
2006-10-18 02:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to put you down/embarress you, next time she says anything in front of people embarress her ask her in a big voice why she is so interested in your bust, make a big deal out of it and see how she reacts.
2006-10-17 11:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It soulds shallow, but from a guy's point of view, boobs are boobs.
You shouldn't have to worry about the size and your friend doesn't sound like much of a friend. Ask yourself if you really want to know her any longer.
2006-10-17 11:43:09 · answer #11 · answered by iMacThere4iAm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋