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I'm the 24 year old girlfriend of a mama's boy and She shows all the classic signs of the mother of a mama's boy. She interferes in our relationship, opens his mail, snoops around in the stuff in our room, talks about me behind my back a couple of times in front of him! But he denies it, tells him how to spend his money constantly, tries to drive a wedge between me and her son. Has given me a dirty look when his back was turned before, has said rude and malicious things to me. He invites her into our relationship by telling stuff about us like arguements we've gotten into and when I called him on he's "like my mom has always been a big part of my life, what am I supposed to do disown her"? All I want is for him to stop telling her our business, not shun her. I figured moving out would be the answer, and once I even convinced him to move out, but she keeps talking him out of it, How can I get him to cut the appron strings and move out?

2006-10-17 11:30:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

11 answers

get new BF

2006-10-17 11:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Its all about jealousy. She doesnt like the fact that another woman is in his life, and wants to keep the control - rather than let her son live his own life, with another woman other than herself.
The only thing that I can suggest is telling your boyfriend to get some balls, and branch off from his controlling mother... he doesnt have to be mean about it, he can actually sit her down and talk to her... she just needs a reality check.. she can't breast feed him forever, you know!
Its not like he either has to kiss her butt all the time, or disown her... there is indeed an inbetween... it's all about communication.

2006-10-17 18:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 0 0

Isn't he a man? Guess what, men that really want to do something, don't ask their mothers. You can't blame her, he is the one that doesn't want to get a place with you, no one can talk anyone out of anything.If he is whining to her ,he's just looking for a way out. Open your eyes, you are a little old to blame others.

2006-10-17 18:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0 0

if you ask me i think its a done deal...he is letting his mother control your relationship, where in the hell is his man hood...yes he needs to respect his mom... eventhough she is not respecting you or him, b/c she's not allowing the two of you to live your lives...she's acting out like this b/c she is afraid she is going to lose her precious lil son and the relationship they have together, now from what you are saying it seems as though she controls about 98% of your relationship....what ashame your boyfriend needs to grow the hell up and stop running to mommy everytime theres a problem....the sad truth is he has no problem at all letting her control your relationship....he has allowed her to do so and he thinks it's normal behavior....she knows exactly what she's doing, i don''t think it's anything personal torwards you....i think she's like that with whoever he gets involved with why?? b/c they have built a relationship that only the two of them can understand....and if anyone outside of that relationship can't understand that....well than thats too bad...because their not gonna let anyone anytime soon come between them....now as for you...you need to make a decision and ask yourself is this really what you want...good lucck!

2006-10-17 19:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0 0

It looks to me like you love the guy alot!.:BUT: it also feels like he isn't really ready to move out if he can be convinced so easily by family.Why don't you two take his Mom out for lunch and have a whole hearted discussion.Looks like she might feel threatened by the new woman in her sons life.Let her know your not taking him from her and she can be part of your lives but not the boss of it!.Hope things work out well for you.

2006-10-17 18:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by sablefir 1 · 0 0

You need to make it clear that although you respect he has a relationship with his mom, you need him to be respectul of your feelings and that you want to move foward into the relationship and this means going the next step and moving in, and that is mother should want him to be happy, and dont i make you happy. He will get the idea or you should get rid of him.

2006-10-17 18:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sounds like YOU need to move out.

And give junior the option of coming with you or not.

If he does, he's yours.

If he doesn't, you were in a fight you were never going to win anyway.

2006-10-17 18:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by jbtascam 5 · 0 0

You cant. he has to be willing to do it himself, and it doesn't sound like he is. This is a bond that you cannot break. Either accept things the way they are or let him go. You are his gf, and gf's come and go. She is his mother, and she is forever.

2006-10-17 18:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 0 0

Your only trying to do exactly what she is doing. If he really wanted to move he would. He don't so he won't

2006-10-17 18:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

find a real man come and see me

2006-10-17 18:32:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The answer is you need a MANFREIND not a BOYFREIND Baby!!!

2006-10-17 18:35:54 · answer #11 · answered by boxer 2 · 0 0

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