My partner and I are trying to conceive and we were wondering if there is anyone in this forum that has children....I know this question is bound to bring up some a**hole comments from some.....but for those of you who have serious comments, I would like to know what your experiences were...did you encounter problems with the schools, or straight parents? How did you handle day care and explaining about two mommies?
2006-10-17 11:20:14 · 9 answers · asked by pirategirls16 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Good for you. As a Father of four, let me assure you that there will be all sorts of issues! Parenting is ALWAYS done "by the seat of your pants". Strangely enough, if the commitment and desire are there to lovingly raise a child, I'd simply say GO FOR IT! You'll learn as you go.
Since the divorce, most of my kids' friends know that they have a gay dad and surprisingly, they don't care, which is great!
2006-10-17 11:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by pocket68rocket 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I have two adopted children.
My situation is quite different in that I am single and both of my children are developmentally challenged and don't know that their family isn't "the norm" so I have never had to explain the 'two mommies' thing.
People know because I have a rainbow sticker on my car and wear lgbt supportive apparel/
I have had a few weird looks from parents but my neighbors and teachers have all been very accepting and friendly.
The questions from school are always " is there another adult or someone special at home we should include for projects, discussions and holiday's? Is there a male figure for fathers day? Can we please have pictures of who you consider your family so we can talk about them in class, too?"
My personal experience has been very positive. My biggest obstacle is finding other lgbt families or 'childless' couples and friends to spend time with and understand the restricted hours and choices of activities
2006-10-17 23:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by chocolate sundae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All parenting is tough, no matter the form. Love and self respect, when taught to our children, go a long way. My children have friends over all the time, and they handle questions about their parents with love and understanding, and often get the same in return. My son is dating a young lady who has two moms, in fact, which I never anticipated might happen. But both boys are straight, secure in their sexuality, and they love their dad and coparent. And I am the happiest guy in the world! Go for it.
2006-10-21 00:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mark L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I have been raising my son together since he was still preadolescent.
He's never encountered harassment or teasing for having two same gendered parents. He has lots of really great friends and their parents are just as great.
My partner and I are involved parents, so we know the parents of his friends...and we all get along very well.
I'm convinced it's all in how chidlren are raised, if they are raised by bigots, they become bigots..for the most part..not all.
My son's friends' parents are mostly very open minded and haven't raised their children to be narrow minded or to hate anyone.
Schools don't ever assume, they always ask if my partner is an "acting parental figure" before allowing information to be divulged to her. It doesn't bother me at all. I know they're only doing it to protect the children in general and I'm actually quite grateful for it. My partner is listed as an allowed adult to be included in my son's grades, to pick him up from school, to attend Parent/Teacher conferences.
We've been very lucky and very blessed.
2006-10-17 18:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My sister in law and her wife have 2 kids and they really don't have any problems so far. One is 7 and one is 4. But they live in one of the most gay friendly cities in America. I gave up worrying about "other people" when I was 16. Straight or gay, someone ,somewhere , is going to give you grief about something. So my advice is, Just live.
2006-10-17 18:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by flip4449 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you want kids, go for it. There are many straight couples out there who do a poor job of parenting. If you can provide your children with love, support, and encouragement, they will be cool with it. They are taught to accept it from birth. They will be surrounded by love. Good luck.
2006-10-17 18:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by gc27858 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i raised my kids to have an open mind and they treat me well. my advice is to be yourselves and rais the kids to be accepting of all people and have an open mind. dont worry about what others will say just love your kids with all your heart and everything will be ok
2006-10-17 19:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by KellyJeanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
iT IS A BIT COMMPLICATED BUT YOU PROBABLY WILL BE BETTER PARENTS(MOMMAS), THEN A NORMAL FAMILY.
JUST RELAX!
2006-10-17 20:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Gemy curiosa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEE DEE DEE - NEWS FLASH - the two of you have the same reproductive organs - not going to work - DEE DEE DEE
2006-10-17 19:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 7⤋