If a close friend of yours, with a mental illness hurt you or a member of your family, due to their illness and not to their own will, would you forgive them?
2006-10-17 11:18:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would try
2006-10-17 11:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you already "have" forgiven this person, but you're wanting to know what to do with the feelings you still have over the "hurt" itself. When you forgive, it is more for yourself than for the person who hurt you. Forgiveness is a good thing, it lightens the burden
off the person who did the hurting, and it makes the "forgiver" more of a good human being. As for the hurt? Forgiving doesn't mean you have to hang out with that person again or at all. But you more than have the right to give yourself an emotional break away "from" that person. Because if you don't, you'll find yourself feeling resentment toward them, and that's not good for either of you. Just take a break, let it go at least for now, okay? And good luck to both of you.
2006-10-17 11:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I know what your going through, I too have a person in my life with a mental illness which is my cousin. You have to remember your friends state. Things may not always go the way you want it to go but try to help him understand how you feel, when he or she makes a mistake. Things will get better over time.
2006-10-17 11:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by Leo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if I knew for a fact it was due to their illness and not for some other reason and they were just using the illness as a cover up so they could hurt you and get away with it.
2006-10-17 11:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by robbie347 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. If the Amish can forgive a man who killed 5 of their children, who are we to not forgive someone with a mental illness?
2006-10-17 11:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, unless their using this as an excuse too get their way. If that's the case, go along with them and begin reversing the situation.
2006-10-17 11:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course i would forgive them! if i know that they didn't do it purpose but because they're mentally disabled, it's not their fault. they didn't choose to be born that way, so you should forgive them.
2006-10-17 11:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by sportzgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they just hurt them yes if they murdered them i would try really hard and eventually forgive it would just take a lil longer
2006-10-17 11:21:45 · answer #8 · answered by Beka14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would forgive, but i would think twice about being close with this person
2006-10-17 11:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, it really depeneds, what kind of hurt? If they broke your arm or raped you, never ever! but if it was little, yea ofcourse, and if him/her, was your real friend you would not have to ask strangers that. not being rude that is
2006-10-17 11:26:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno. i guess it would depend on what happened. if it was sexual in any form, absoultely not. if it was like hitting someone or telling a secret or a lie, yeah i probably would. But i would try to talk to them and try to get them to understand on some level that what they did was not right and it does hurt people.
2006-10-17 11:23:33 · answer #11 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋