im nearly 19 and want to become pregnant.?

Question

i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. we both feel the same way about having a baby. am i to young?

having a baby has been on my mind for over a year, i really think we can provide a good, happy home to our baby filled with love. am i stupid for thinking this, considering my age?

Answer 1

I had two planned pregnancies under 19. I got pregnant with my son at 17 had him a 18 and got pregnant with my daughter at 19 and had her at 19. I own my own home, and babies cost a lot of money and you need to have the Patience. email me at [e-mail] for more info. you might look young, but being a mother matures you in ways you'll never knew

Answer 2

Of course it is always up to you and your boyfriend, but I will give you my opinion. I was 17 when I got pregnant and had my son at 18. He is 5 1/2 now and an amazing child. I am a single mom and have been for 5 years, my son hasn't seen his dad since he was 2. His dad and I were together for 4 years as well and had dreamed of being parents, couldn't wait and then accidnetally got pregnant. Of course at the time you want it, but if I can help anyone live out there dream I would still say to wait. There is no "right" age to become pregnant, but you have to think of the child. I would love to have another child, but I am going to do it the way I think is right, get married first, have either a degree of some sort or a really good paying job. Nothing lasts forever and even tho my son's dad said he would be with us forever, he was quick to bounce not even 1 year after our son was born. What makes you think he will stick around? My suggestion to you is to wait at least a few more years until your out on your own, making really good money have a really good savings, get married and make sure you are both 110% sure you want the child, it's not easy at any age nor is it cheap, TRUST ME!

Answer 3

Would it be too much to get married first? Are you against marriage? I just do not understand.

Please tell me you are not going to follow in the footsteps of all these Hollywood types who have babies out of wedlock.

Plus, don't you want a wedding? It does not have to be big or expensive event. Where do you live? How about going to Lake Tahoe, Reno or Vegas. Don't you think your family would like for you to get married, then have a baby?

It is a lot or work having a baby. I have twins, what if you have twins, you might change your mind on being ready and financially stable.

Having twins is what I always wanted, but I am 36 now and have more life experience.

Think about it. Being married is the best thing for your soon to be baby if that is what you want.

Hope this helps you.

Answer 4

I think you should try to finish school first (if you plan to go), marriage isn't a bad idea either. You want to enjoy being just you and boyfreind for awhile, you know? That alone time goes away once you have a child. You are not even old enough to drink yet! You have years and years left to make a baby, what is the harm in waiting a little while? I don't think you are stupid for wanting one, but I do think having one so young is a little bit of a poor idea.

Answer 5

Yes, you are young but if you are financially stable and you both have good careers then I'd say you are ready. BUT It takes more than just love to bring a baby into the world. If you aren't financially ready it will cause big problems down the road. I grew up in a family that wasn't financially stable & it has been hard. I wanted things that other kids had but I could never get them. I've been with my husband almost 8 years & we are still trying to get ourselves financially prepared for owning a house & having kids. It just depends on the person, some people probably don't care about this but some do.
Good luck in whatever you choose to do.

Answer 6

My husband and I planned to have a baby and we thought we were ready but not everything goes as expected. I was blessed with severe nausea and vomiting and problems with my kidneys. I was put on "bed rest" (I'm only 22 weeks) so I had to leave work (now we don't have my income.) I have to pay for Zofran ($22 a pill over $1200 a month,) hospital visits ($400 each visit,) doctors visits (about $250 a visit,) and eventually the birth (around $3,500.) Thank goodness my husbands income covers everything because we had never planned for a situation like that.

Answer 7

I know how you feel, my bf n i have been together for about that time too. both of us would love a baby right now, but realistically, although its what we want, i don't think at this age its thee best idea. love is a gr8 thing to give a child, but sadly babies *** with many needs and unless either of you have a steady (and good) income, I advise waiting. Until you can give the child everything it needs without having to worry.

in saying that...many people hav had babies at younger ages and got on fine... i guess its just up to you in the end.

goodluck!!!!x

Answer 8

No i dont think your stupid for thinking this. Im 21 and my pregnancy wasn't planned I'm 10 wks gone now and scared as hell! I was really worried at 1st, financially and emotionally. Me and my boyfriend live together and have talked abut it loads.
If you can support your baby and it seems your in a stable relationship, I say go for it.
Your not too young and like you say you've been thinking about it for a year you go for it!!!
I hope all gos well for you and your boyfriend good luck hun x

Answer 9

You can provide even better home in a couple of years when you have a college degree (or some solid work experience and a stable job). Unfortunately, love is not enough- we need money to survive

Answer 10

No, your not to young...... but babies arent all cute and cuddly. They have explosive poop and projectile vomitting. Dont have a baby because you want a cute little cuddle buddy. Buy a dog if thats all you want.