I was wondering if I should still be friends with my ex because everytime we talk she always would bring up that guy and I really don't want to hear it. What is the nicest possible way to solve this? Other than that, conversations are dead if it isn't about him and her.
2006-10-17 11:02:11 · 14 answers · asked by Shrimpy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It bothers me because I really don't care about the new guy. Sort of say, it annoys me. I'm always open for regular conversations, but when we talk. It's always about him. Geeze, I want to tell her to shutup but I can't so I ask you guys for help.
Thanks!
2006-10-17 11:14:33 · update #1
talk about how good sex is with your new gf
2006-10-17 11:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i agree with rashelle... my ex too is a psycho- glad to be rid. We have very little to say each other if we communicate because i haven't got the patience to hear his little attempt at making any conversation. I say why bother? There was a reason why you broke up- being civil has only got me into more of a mess, he's demented and thinks the sun shines out of his backside and has no idea why he got dumped the hell out- and i cannot be bothered to explain it over for the 100th time. He cannot bare that I'm with someone else and all his convos involve the new man in my life. I'm glad to be rid. You should be too!
2006-10-17 18:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by antagonist 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hehe, all depends on your ex. some are cool and you can still be friends, some are pain in the asses.
i guess you should ask yourself is she still worth hanging with?
if you dont like talking about the new guy, then dont and just say that to her.....problem solved. really, its that easy
if you fear that yull have nothing to chat about, isnt that just telling you that maybe just tkae a break from each other and let enough time past so that the next tme you see her, you got something to chat about?
do your own thing for a little while, do some things and hey presto! you got stuf youve done to talk about.
also chatting to someone when you got nothing to chat about really means that its time to end the convo. even if its earlier than you like, its better than forcing the convo to coninue, and its better than talk about the new guy!
hope that helps, dave
2006-10-17 19:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be straight up and tell her in a nice way that you dont want to hear it. She's a big girl, I'm sure she can handle it. If the conversations are boring, take the lead and talk about something more interesting. Go do something together like a movie or something to give you something else to talk about.
2006-10-17 18:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always be friends with an ex depending on how you both left eachother. If it wasnt because of abuse or anything like that,,sure why not. Im friends with all my exs,,thats of course after i got over the anger and hurt. If you dont want to hear about her man then tell her so. If she keeps bringing him up in a convo,,,then dont waste your time trying to talk to her at all,,,,if it bothers you so much. or you can start braggin about this new girl you met,,,and watch how fast she changes her tune then.
2006-10-17 18:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're a bigger person then me already...lol...personally I don't think being friends with an ex is an easy thing to do. Especially if there is still feelings involved... how you're so annoyed when she talks about that other guy. I wouldn't tell her it annoys you....that would lead her to asking you why....and I don't even know if you know why yet. You need to chill on the ex friendship thing and work on yourself....making you happy...finding "that girl" for you...then maybe her talking about the guy wouldn't be so hard to deal with. You can talk about your relationships together...lol.
2006-10-17 18:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by katie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ex's aren't the worst, but you always say you'll be friends no matter what happens, and it never works out that way, in the end, all they are is what they are, your ex, you can still call them a "friend", but it feels more like an "acquaintance", it's kind of sad, but that's what usually happens, if all you can share between you two is other relationships, then there isn't much there anymore, just say you'll always be there or something, bad break ups suck, but good closure is ...well a good thing,
2006-10-17 18:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by Bailey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yah, I think if you guys can't talk about much else, I wouldn't waste my time. Just because you two are eachother's ex's, doesn't mean you have to check back with eachother, and see how things are doing.
Just say "hi" and "bye".
2006-10-17 18:06:50 · answer #8 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Tell her that you don't want to hear anymore about her new relationship. Tell her you want to be friends but you just can't if she's going to keep that up. Communication's the key.
2006-10-17 18:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have 4 ex,s and it is best 4 me 2 just let the end b the end. start a new life 4 yourself, good luck!
2006-10-17 18:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you don't have to listen. Tell her that if that's all she wants to talk about to find an appreciative audience. If she wants to be your friend, it's a two-way deal.
2006-10-17 18:14:03 · answer #11 · answered by robertspraguejr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋