I need help,I'm blk living in a 98%white area?

Question

I'm nt rasist byt its hard 4 me to live where i do.98% of my city is whit populated.i feel uncomfortable and out of place,it hurts me really bad and i take this seriously.i have on about 5 blk friends and if it wasnt 4 them i would be a wht grl in blk skin,people here play with words tht hurt me,when i was inthe 3rd-5th grade,i was the only blk in my class and once,my sister (twin) and i were the only blks in our grade.i feel......i just need help,wat should i do,i just need some support or advice

Answer 1

I know how you feel, I've been in that kind of situation. It's not fun to be the only one of your race, no matter what color you are. As a black girl, it is important to be around other black girls, because sometimes other races can make us feel as thought our physical features are not "pretty" or "acceptable" in their eyes and that can make one want to conform (change) eventually. But on the other hand, the real world IS mostly white, hon. And it is good to know that at an early age. You WILL have to be around mostly white people in a cororate setting or even in college. My advice is find a balence and don't JUSt surround yourself with other black people. But at the same time NEVER loose touch with your roots, it's WHO YOU ARE. Good luck, sista.

Answer 2

I'm not trying to be cute or sarcastic but are you living in a very small town?
Seriously sometimes that's a problem in itself. Not all small towns are alike, but many of them are tightly knit and they see other races or out-of-towners as suspicious.
While I was in grade school my family moved a lot. Even though I'm white, and the population was 99% white, I was still treated very badly because I wasn't "one of them". I was a "city slicker" - which was funny, because I wasn't even sure what that meant at the time. They used words that hurt me too and it felt terrible not being accepted into any circles of friends.
What finally helped me, and it might help you too, is to keep your chin up. Stay strong and don't think for one minute that you have to be anything other than the beautiful young lady you already are. Keep in touch with your 5 friends but don't give up trying to make a couple new friends too.
Eventually as others get to know you better and as you get older (I'm not sure what grade you're in now) there will be more open-minded peers around you.
Try to get involved, maybe in team sports, debate teams, anything you might have an interest in. When others see they have that in common with you, it'll break the ice.
Stay strong, it's the only way to get through it. I wish I had some fool-proof answers for you but all I have is advice, and a lot of sympathy. Take care and I hope things get better for you!

Answer 3

When I was in High School, there were only about 4 black people. My best friend was one of them. I would say, try to be friends with the Whites as best you can, while looking for a connection with in the African-American community... maybe an organization, youth-group, church... Maybe there is a place on the Internet you can connect... We white folks aren't that bad if you give us a chance! I do understand the idea of feeling separated or alone that way though... Ideally, we really are all the same and all deserve a fair chance at being friends--And then also, find yourself in the African-American community as well!

Answer 4

Relax, it could be worse. I have a granddaughter who is blk in a 98% white family. Her father is African American and her mother (my daughter) is Scottish. People are people if you cut them they all bleed red blood. Enjoy the opportunity to share and learn and you will probably make some very precious friends who will love you for the person you are and not the color you are.

Answer 5

Why is it hard? Because other people don't look just like you or because you are treated badly?

I guess you could learn that white people aren't any different than blacks and accept the diversity of the community (no, all white people aren't the same) you live in; you could move; you could find more black friends by joing the NAACP or other race-based group...

Answer 6

You hit the nail on the head when you said you felt like a white girl in black skin........you have every right to live where you want to and not have to move but you are going to have to get rid of the paranoia that you are feeling. I really believe if you tried hard enough you would feel more accepted, but if you keep the attitude you have now then your on hope is to move somewhere you feel more comfortable. I just can't believe that the whole 98% are racist.
It might be a good idea to ask yourself if you might be a little racist against whites and its preventing you from getting to know them.

Answer 7

You have four friends? Your rich. I have maybe two and none that I can count on to do something with me that only I want to do, but need a partner, so stop your whinning, life is hard all over if we look for barriers.

Answer 8

Im really sorry, Really. You want to know what i think? You dont need advice, you need support. Support is one of the nicest things someone can do for you. Please, dont get dissappointed. If people arent mean to you, Then I am mainly happy for you. I say goodluck to you (im white)

Answer 9

Hold your head up high and be proud of who you are as a person not to do with your colour. I know it's hard but ignore people who make comments, they are racist and ignorant. Walk away from them if they make comments and spend your time with people who you know are your friends.

Answer 10

Come to Pittsburgh, PA then you wouldn't feel so odd.