Do I really have an anger problem?

Question

I get angry sometimes. I often lash out or smash something. In the past couple of months Im smashed:
Cordless home phone
mobile phone
mobile phone #2
ipod nano
mirror
PS2 controller

On sunday I got very angry so I pushed a great big pile of plates onto the ground-smashed all 8 of them.

I go to the gym 5x a week so I do release alot of anger there.

Thanks for any advice

PS2 I just turned 16 couple of months ago, not sure if its off relevance.

Answer 1

Yes, you have an anger management problem. It is interesting that in describing you actions, you chose not to describe any reasons. Your school interventionist should be able to assist you in identifying the triggers. Then you can begin to learn how to respond rather than react. If you have this much identified, you'll do great in channeling the anger into being great.

Answer 2

The more important issue here is, "What are you so angry about?" I don't think that celebrating your sixteenth has any relevance to your anger although I do believe there is a root cause.

Has there been any life-changing events to recently take place in your life such as; moving to a different city (having to make new friends), separation or divorce of parents, death of a family member, or close friend, were you recently diagnosed with a health problem, etc...

The best advice that I can give is to look within and try to determine what is causing the anger including a past unresolved issue or issues. We can not attend to the hurt inside of us---if we are not honest with ourselves. Next, I would ask for help from my parents, and if the issue(s) has still not been resolved---you should speak with an onsite counselor at your school. They are there to assist you in every way possible. Remember that you are never alone---help is always available. If the school counselor is not able to assist you---then he/she will refer you to another professional that is offsite. Be encouraged---realizing that we have a problem is half the battle. Take care.

Answer 3

First of all, it could be nothing, or at least a temporary phase so bear that in mind as you read the rest of this.

The next time it happens, try to identify the what it is that you are really mad at. You want something that you are not getting from yourself or someone else. If you do manage to identify this thing, ask yourself if you are really entitled to it. In my experience, most people have a hyper-inflated sense of entitlement. I have been there and I know from experience that this leads to misery, and that is no way to live. In the meantime, talk to a qualified professional before you hurt yourself or someone else.

BTW: How would feel if you skipped the gym a few days this week. Sometimes obsessive exercise is a form of self-punishment.

Answer 4

Not entirely, I think you are going through a phase where you feel strong but at the same time you have some frustration. Not everything can be corrected using force. I'm not sure working out at the gym releases allot of anxiety. Maybe you should dump your problems on someone else like a younger brother or sister. Why bother yourself with BS. If you get your drivers license here soon try not to speed through a crowded mall and mangle crowds of pedestrians. See ya.

Answer 5

You are following an example set for you by an adult in your life. Perhaps, it is one of your parents,guardian or older sibling. Because you are clever enough to identify the problem, you will be just as clever in finding a solution.
As we become adults, whether we want to admit it or not, we tend to follow the behavior pattern of our parents. If we have been taught to talk out our problems and express frustration through dialoge, we follow the same pattern as we leave the home. If your family's response to stress is a physical expression of upset, your 'programmed' first response will be the same..
People are lazy by nature so we tend to do what is easiest. If an individual has,always, acted in an angry manner in response to stress than that will be the path that they follow. It takes energy and sometimes emotional pain to identify a problem. Unless you are committed to changing your ways than this expression of frustration will be your chosen way to act.
I think that the fact that you are asking this question is a sign of greater intelligence and insightfulness. Somewhere in your being, you know that anger is destructive to objects, people and most of all your self-esteem. You must feel some sort of remorse after your actions and the feelings of guilt can only have a negetive effect of your sense of self worth.
Someone has hurt you. The anger has a source. In order to disarm the anger you must find the cause. It could be abuse, neglect, exclusion or a sense that you are unloved. Love is the stable center that allows us to go out into the world and still feel safe. Being loved is a validation of our self-worth. This should come from your primary caregiver but if it is not than you have to find the good, unique qualities that make you special and positively reinforce them for yourself. It does not matter whose child you are. Every child is worthy of love, understanding and protection. If somehow you did not recieve this than take heart and know that you definitely are deserving.
Use your anger as a driving force to help you in one of your life's passions. Perhaps, you could become a role model for other younger kids in your neighbourhood. As an adult, you could select a career that would allow you to help/protect children. The sky truly is the limit. The only way to build self esteem is through accomplishment. With every success, you will feel better about yourself. People who are happy do not act out in destructive ways. Positivity breeds positivity. Use your physical strength for bringing about good in your life. Olympics anyone?

Answer 6

You are having temper tantrums like a spoiled 2 year old.

Grow up. Real men have more self control. Real men affect the world. They do not let it affect them.

You are narcissistic and you have anxiety issues.

Anger is a combination of fear, frustraion, and anxiety. Figure those ouf first, before you react.

Answer 7

Anger Management Counseling might be for you. Your anger is probably relevant to your anger, but it would be best if you work on it before you get in trouble. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Lay off the juice man. Them steroids are not good for you.

Answer 9

Yes. What are you so angry about?

Answer 10

ABSOLUTELY NOT!! I have no problem getting angry.