Theres a lady at work that has been bitter for the 5 yrs I've worked there, always in a bad mood and never has anything nice to say about anything?
2006-10-17 10:41:13 · 14 answers · asked by TRACER 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Tracer I know exactly what you mean..some people thrive on the negative..they love the conflict it seems that's the only thing that makes them feel alive..while the rest of us appreciate a nice even flow and calm waters these people think that a good fight or a ***** session is the only adrenaline source and that choppy waters are a reassurance that they are indeed STILL HERE..my sister is like that..she will talk right over your answer to her"how are you" question and begin to report what people have said about you and what horrible things have befallen her that day...trouble is ..its usually no different than anyone elses life and usually not as bad...I often thought that maybe she just didn't have anything interesting to say so when something went wrong she felt that people might be intrigued with the story and the verbal diarrhea began..my remedy to all this aggravation was to stop talking to her a few months ago...now THAT'S how you keep a happy life lol..
2006-10-17 11:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm really sorry for her. I've known people like her and it's really sad. They're often carrying some bitterness with them from the past and are unable to let it go. It could also be that her personal situation is really bad. A person like that at your work can poison the atmosphere. Sometimes it happens that a person is very insecure about her/his skills and to stop people noticing or questioning they just act poisonous all the time. When I come to think of it I know somebody like this.
2006-10-17 12:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one prefers to be miserable. People are miserable as a result of something traumatic to them. It is unfortunate that it has lasted so long, but that should only tell you that it's something profound. When people are like this, it's a cry for help. If you care, make an excuse that you're hungry and want to go get something to eat and invite her along, or bring her a coffee one morning. We're social creatures, and I've often noticed that those of us who are miserable are so afflicted because of lack of social situations and just want someone to notice them.
2006-10-17 11:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by zea_m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As usual, Susan and Chris have the dumbest answers. She could be chronically depressed or have a bad marriage and/or alot of stress in her personal life. There's alot of reasons people are miserable.
2006-10-17 18:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be a good idea to ask her. she may just need to talk. Then again some people are just like that. i have a friend that complains about everything, and that's just how he is. He's not miserable, he just seems that way to most people.He doesn't like to laugh, but he does find things funny, and i get a kick out of watching him interact with out people. he like he way people think that he's so miserable, he gets a kick out of that.
2006-10-17 10:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by thecraved1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suspect depression. Long-term depression can destroy a person's emotional and mental health. You probably won't be able to change her, so the best thing to do is avoid her.
Approach her supervisor (not her directly) and let them know that her attitude is impacting on your work environment and that she might need help.
Good luck.
2006-10-17 11:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I worked with someone who was the same way. She got worse when she had surgery to remove cancer. All I can say is try to be nice to her. She may have problems at home. Don't expect her to be nice in return. At least you can say you tried.
2006-10-17 11:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by gc27858 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That ain't not'in, you should meet my parents (they're the same).
Ya can't change her cause she won't listen, or you'll hurt her feelings telling her the truth about her.
It's a lose-lose situation with people like that.
Avoid her. Work related questions only, otherwise, you are unavailable to her.
A famous quote I luv:
"Heartache comes to those who dwell upon it"
2006-10-17 11:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by IMHO (In My Humble Opinion) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
battered children grow up to be batterers,and so on.
plus I might ad the world is a lonely sick place now that is causing depression,and there are of course hormonal problems that create depression/thus bad attitudes.
2006-10-17 10:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by steveshoardhouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's going through some personal problems or she's tired of working at that job.
2006-10-17 10:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋