If someone you know well committed suicide how would you feel?

Question

i ask becuase my closest friend did almost six months ago and to this day i still don't feel anything at all and haven't yet. So when i read all your comments, and if i had been asked this question before it happened, i would have said the same thing. So now i just cant understand why im like this, but thts a another issue anyway!
And to the person who said you would feel liek you didn't know them..thats how i feel, its horrible.

Answer 1

It depends. Did I like this person?

Suicide is a tragedy. But suicidal individuals are in great mental anguish. Suicide, like abortion, is never the option of first resort. No one commits either one unless in a position from which they see no escape. So while I understand the need of the living to try to prevent suicide, I also understand the need of a suicidal individual to take their life.

Grief is a complicated issue. It is never as straightforward as simple sorrow. There's a fantastic book by Anneli Rufus called "The Farewell Chronicles" that takes a look at all the various reactions to death, from joy to profound sadness, that you might want to look at.

Answer 2

It would break my heart for me personally I love people and I become really fond of the ones I talk to on a regular basis I would also question myself about if there was a sign before they did it all in all I would be upset

Answer 3

I suppose it would depend on how I felt about them before they suicided. I imagine my feelings could range from relief to utter devestation depending on who it is. If it is that psycho ex gf from 4 years ago who has stalked me off and on I might be relieved. If it is my current best friend, I imagine it would feel like losing a brother and I would be pretty tore up.

Answer 4

have had a few, its awful.... we see it a fair bit in Australia. Our Child Support Agency causes most of it, with an average 7 men killing themselves per week over child support issues (when you think about our population being less than 20 million, 7 a week is a very high number)

Answer 5

If I was really close to them I would feel badly that I had not noticed the signs and got them some help. Other than that, I would feel a great loss and would miss them terribly.

Answer 6

Horrible and depressed. I would want to know what I could have done to prevent it from happening. I think I would feel like it was my fault somehow.

Answer 7

Angry. It sounds cold but it's true. People who kill themselves and leave behind friends and family that loved them, rather then asking for and seeking out help are selfish and uncaring people. I know a boy growing up without a father because his dad took the easy way out and hung himself. My highschool friend grew up without her dad because he also hung himself and she hated him for it. My uncle tried to kill himself and leave his 2 children to live without their dad. Thankfully he didn't succeed.

Anybody that committs suicide leaves behind people that wonder if it was something they did, or if there was something they could have done to stop it. It is a completely selfish cowardly act. I respect the people who are going through hard times that seek PROFFESSIONAL help. If you know anyone thinking about killing themselves, please advise them to seek help from a proffesional who is trained to handle problems like this.

I also knew a man who constantly would get high and phone his friends telling them "tonight's the night I'm going to kill myself" trying to seek attention form them. One night this guys buddy had enough and told him he wasn't coming over and to sleep it off. That night the guy killed himself. 2 weeks later his friend also killed himself because he couldn't live with the guilt of not being there to help his friend. It angered and saddened many people.

Answer 8

I would feel sorry for them. sorry that they where not strong enough to make it in the world.
then I would go see a movie,
then at there funeral while the preacher was saying good things about the person I would shout but pretending its a sneeze be like

ahh! ahh choopussy!
then I would walk off.

Answer 9

I felt lost, deprived, let down, stunned, shocked, like I wanted to join her, then I got mad, depressed and hated her. Now, I understand, but I still think about what she did and how it affected my family.

Answer 10

Guilt or responsible to some degree, especially if they left "hints" and I did not follow thru on their subliminal pleas for help.