I've been with a beautiful girl for the past year and a half. She is a very independant girl and in her past relationship she took care of her bf for 4 years before he left her. She met me and told me that she had no feelings for him and we started our relationship. I showered her with love and material things and gave her everything because giving her things made me happy. She recently started feeling that something was missing in our relationship and she broke up with me. I felt like I gave her the world and now I'm completely broken. She told me that she wished she had reconciled her broken heart from her previous relationship before she allowed me to get too close to her. She said she feels like something is missing in her life and she's going to seek professional help. She told me that she doesn't want to get back with her ex and she just doesn't want a relationship right now. She still tells me she cares deeply about me and needs to figure out who she is. Should I wait or moveon
2006-10-17 10:17:29 · 12 answers · asked by Browns 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're the only one who can decide if you are willing to wait. If your relationship was special enough, then think about how much time you are willing to give. 6 months? 3 weeks? Also, you said "I showered her with love and material things...b/c it made me happy." Not everyone needs gifts and material things. Some women need the words, some need actions. Understand that while she probably appreciated what you did for her, if you weren't showing her love in the way she needed to hear it, it wasn't doing much good. Try to respect her maturity in recognizing that she needs to fix something in herself, by herself. Lots of people look to their relationship to fix everything, and that's a recipe for disaster.
2006-10-17 10:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by yellowbugchickoh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. As painful as it is, be grateful in the fact that she was honest with you. Showering her with material things is not what made her happy. That just means shes a girl with some actual substance. She didnt use you. She could have, and continue doing so. She didnt. It isnt right or fair for her to think you may wait for her, although it doesnt sount like she did. She wasnt as ready as she thought she was. Im sorry, but it doesnt sound like you will get back together.
2006-10-17 10:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for her, if you really love her. She was w/ this other guy for 4yrs and maybe still felt something for him, it takes a while to get over someone you've been w/ for so long, and for her to go w/ someone else right away is too soon. Just give her some time and be by her side, she's going to need someone to be w/ her. And its not always about being materialistic, its the thought that counts not the present, thats what i've learned w/ my b/f. give her some time and stick by her side.
2006-10-17 10:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by Become a better person 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea how old you are, but if you are really crazy about this girl then give her some time and space. Keep in touch with her but it doesn't mean you can't have casual dates with other girls. If it is meant to be then you and she will find your way back to each other. If this doesn't sound like something you can do without pressuring her, then move on! Best of luck.
2006-10-17 10:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by Bearcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. She was probably on the rebound when the two of you got together. Chances are that she has again already met someone, I highly doubt she is breaking up just to figure herself out, she could have did that while she was with you.
2006-10-17 10:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please for your own sake, move on. She is obviously not ready for the committment you are. She is also unsure of her own path in life, let alone sharing that path with someone else. We have 300 million people in this country. There is a woman out there who will love you for you, not your money or gifts, your heart will heal and you will find true love. DONT give up! Good Luck!
2006-10-17 10:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! It sounds like to me that she is giving you a line of crap! It is true that she needs to be happy with herself first before she can be in a relationship....but I think you need to move on, because nice guys like you deserve to be loved too! I hope time mends your heart soon, and I know it hurts to hear this... I have been there myself. but i learned that if i dont move on they will only use me more!
2006-10-17 10:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Shana H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on
2006-10-17 10:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by juicyfruit_69_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter what anyone else tells you, you are going to do what you think that you need to do. So, ask yourself, is it worth the wait?
2006-10-17 10:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~Jeni~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WAIT!! If she knows that u love her so much to wait for her maybe she will get back together!
2006-10-17 10:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by Caitlyn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋