i have a friend whom i thought i knew. i have known him for 11 years but we were not together all those years. we seperated for a few years and recently started back talking in the last three to four.
anyway, i helped him through a lot. up and downs in and outs and never asked for anything, just satisfied that he was happy. i learned from him how not to be with people and to appreciate what you have in your life by hearing his mistakes.
now, my son has been in a bit of trouble the last few months and he(my so called friend) has decided since the last stunt that he needs to back off. color me surprised but is that not the antithesis of friend.
my question in my rambling is should i be hurt or relieved. it really does not bother me as much as it would a normal person. is this permanent or will i crash eventually.
please give me your input.
2006-10-17 10:10:50 · 9 answers · asked by edcltu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he was not your Friend. he should be there like you were there for him.is what permanent? his lack of loyalty. good thing you found out now.
2006-10-17 10:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do not allow his attitude to change who you are. The two of you are different people and perhaps he needed you however, now that you need him he just doesn't know how to help you. Sorry, but sometimes that is the way it is. I am sure you are hurt. however, we should never help anyone out with the idea that they will be there for us, it just doesn't always work that way. And if he was always so needy, he probably can not help you, remember he was unable to help himself, obviously you are two different people. And if i am reading your question properly it seems as though you have always been the stronger of the two. You and your son are in my prayers. God bless you and Good luck to you
2006-10-17 17:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look at it as a god send.
If the man can not handle being around your son when he is at his worst, then he really doesnt need to be there at all.
First and foremost, your child should be first and not the man himself. Sorry but I have five children, I am divorced and my kids are my life, they come first and any man that may come into or be in my life has to understand, the children are first them second then myself and it stays that way.
2006-10-17 17:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by cowgirlduchess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im wondering, as you may be, what your friendship has to do with the trouble your having with your son, and why he feels he needs to back off because of it.
If hes thinking that you have enough to deal with without his problems adding on to yours, then he might be under the impression he is doing you a favor.
2006-10-17 17:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one said friendship is forever.
If he doesn't have the strength to help you, so be it.
He isn't the man you thought.
Just because you help someone over and over again, doesn't put a claim on them to return the favours in kind.
Get him into Big brother's association, it is wonderful and they have great role models.
Remember you give to someone from your heart with no strings attached... let your friend go......and don't be upset by his inability to help you.....
2006-10-17 17:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants you there to listen to him but not there when you want someone to be an ear and listen, he's no friend more an acquaintance that disappears and rarely see i'd stay clear as he obviously isn't what i'd call a friend and doesn't want to know your problems and talk to a real friend.
2006-10-17 17:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by sez75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't feel like reading it, but did and still don't make sense. Can't help sorry. Rephrase question and say what you really mean.
2006-10-17 17:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did not feel like reading it sorry... but I was the 1st one to answer!
2006-10-17 17:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by Carly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay away from him! you deserve better. goodluck!
2006-10-17 17:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋