i really like her and she really likes me and we have the thinks to make sure she doesnt get pregnant, but she could get really in big trouble if her parents found out
2006-10-17 10:01:56 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Are you NUTS? You WILL get caught. You WILL get in trouble. There is NO SAFE SEX PERIOD.
Don't do it. Don't even think about it. Go take a cold shower.
2006-10-17 10:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by snddupree 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you need a bunch of strangers advice on this issue, then your probably not ready. Protected sex can be a wonderful experience between two loving people. Please keep in mind that protection is not 100% effective, and even with all the safety precautions their is still the risk of pregnancy. You'll know when your ready without needing advice from strangers. Until then do other romantic things that may not get you into trouble with her folks. Long Walks, Read a Book together, Back rubs, their are a million ways to express your feelings for each other besides sex.
2006-10-17 10:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by novelwyrm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aside from the whole issue of the parents (what do you mean by "big trouble"? Is it a shotgun or getting kicked out?...it all depends), you don't say how old you are and what protection you have. If you REALLY must have sex, use a condom AND have her use the Pill, or at least a diaphragm. That way, her risk of getting pregnant is almost Zero...but it's still there! Also, you want to avoid STD'S!
Sometimes, waiting is the best.
2006-10-17 10:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex is a huge decision. I don't think she should let her parents make her decisions for her, but there are lots of things you have to consider, and her parents may see those things more clearly than she does. What would you do if she got pregnant (you can never be sure she won't, even if you do your best of prevent it)? Does she see a doctor she can discuss pregnancy prevention and STDs with? Do you? I think most people should wait to have sex until they're in a position to handle their own lives and feel confident about their decisions. That her parents are so involved in her life suggests that you may be too young to take this step. There are many other ways to be intimate, touch, and feel close. You don't have to do something so risky.
2006-10-17 10:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your a pretty young fella and your girlfriend seems equally young. I say dont have sex just yet. Save it. Wait till you get a little mature..trust me it will be a lot better and her parents wont mind that much either. You can only loose your virginity once in your life so be 100% positive about what you are getting into. With sex..the longer you wait the better and more special it will feel. Hope this helped.
2006-10-17 10:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by The Richest Man in Babylon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother gave me the sex talk when I was young. Thereafter her words were "if you are ready to handle the consequences of what COULD happen if you have sex, then you are ready to have sex. If you are NOT willing to handle the consequences, I suggest you wait, dear" Its very to the point. If your willing to take care of a child, should that issue arise, then go for it. Also , if your hell bent on doing it, family planning, as well as planned parenthood, offer birth control pills to underage girls for free and totally anonymous to the parents. We, as parents are "always wrong, and know nothing". So I will not tell you to not do it. And I couldnt keep you from doing it, as I'm sure your parents couldnt either, but, we can at least inform you and make sure you know the options.
2006-10-17 11:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by Erin G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready to be a parent it is not a good idea because sometimes even with using 2 forms of birth control it is possible for her to get pregnant. My husband's first wife got pregnant both times while using 2 forms.
2006-10-17 10:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love her and she loves you, but if she does have sex with you she'll get in trouble you need to wait if you really love. Tell her that you both need to think about the after effect, sex seems to be popular with this generation but think about it dont just rush into it. That's the best solution.
2006-10-17 11:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by purplemajesty@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a much better person to wait until marriage than to give in as a young person. Ask yourself, are you ready for an unexpected pregnancy ( accidents do happen) or even worse a sexually transmitted disease. HPV is from skin to skin contact, you don't even have to "go all the way" condoms won't help.
2006-10-17 10:15:21 · answer #9 · answered by COURTNEY E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You did not talk about love. And just because you have condoms does not mean she will not get pregnant. I would want her on the pill too.
Additionally, where would you do it? When you do it you want it to be with someone you love.....you don't want to worry about getting caught, you want to be relaxed and I would want to be able to spend the night together.
I am not a fan of premarital sex, esp. with teens. Think long and hard about how much you like the idea of child support and fatherhood before you go down this road.
I know it is tempting and feels like "everyone" is doing it.......good luck
2006-10-17 10:05:56 · answer #10 · answered by Beth M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dud you need to slow it down and wait for marriage dud you are taking it alittle bit to fast you need to make sure that you are you are ready to make that commit you know and you also need to no the consequenses likes what would happen if you get her pregnant just incase something breaks[ condom] So you need to really think about are you ready to make this commitment
2006-10-17 10:55:20 · answer #11 · answered by lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋