And she suggested going? With the understanding it would be OK to leave if it was not comfortable. Would you go? Or would you be insulted?
2006-10-17 10:00:44 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think if you two had previously discussed swinging, and both were open to the possibility, than bringing home an invitation with the understanding you could leave at any time would go over pretty well. If not, it might not go over so well.
Broaching the subject of swinging is not an easy one, and I wouldn't suggest doing it by bringing home an invite to a swingers club out of the blue.
Many people would, and do, initially feel hurt that maybe they are not enough for their spouse. This is almost always not the case. Swinging is about exploring fantasies, not finding replacements. It's not replacement sex, it's just additional sex.
Now, if both of you are open to it, than going to the club just to check out the scene might be just what you want. You don't have to participate, you can just hang-out, watch, and take-in the sexy atmosphere. Then you can go home all revved-up and have really hot sex together.
There is no one way to swing. Swinging is whatever you make of it. If you are only comfortable with watching, or soft swap (where you may swap for making out or maybe even some oral sex than switch to your own partner for intercourse), than that's okay. You'll find people who will do just that with you.
There is a link below that I recommend you read for more information about this exact subject.
2006-10-18 18:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swinging is OTBT (Off the beaten trail). It is a dangerous path and it has the high potential for ruining your sex life forever. Think...you're having fun with your wife...then you have super fun with girls, guys, animals .....whatever. Then you get divorced (trust me it will happen) then you have to go back to having regular sex. You will always be thinking about the super sex you once had. You'll be a freak for the rest of your life.
If your wife wants to do this then dump her if you have no children yet. If you do then get counseling. SHe has issues that really needs to be dealt with.
Check out the following website...it can answer your questions and then some. It specifically covers the hazzards of OTBT and what to do about it. Always think about the secondary and teritery effects of your decisions.
http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/
Good luck
2006-10-17 17:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get a lawyer or go to a marriage counselor but don't
go to the swinger party. That is very destructive behavior.
2006-10-17 17:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by bernice l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better she was open and honest about her proclivities rather then lying, sneaking and sowing her freaky oats along lover's lane with a myriad of strangers. You've been put on notice now you've got to react cause it's unlikely that she's gonna give up on her urges. If you can't hang, don't want to be the cuckold in her life then it is time you moved on to find that special someone who will give all of her love to you.
2006-10-17 17:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by ralegas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is strong, going but not participating can be very fun and very arousing......we get out to partys or clubs occasionally....stay with each other and have a great time....it adds a little something extra for us....the main thing is to both agree to the rules befor you go and sticking to the rules
2006-10-17 17:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is bad a good wife/husband would never do such a thing marriage is a bond one man and one woman share it is sacred when you get married you are to be faithful to your partner as long as you stay married.People doing things like this is the reason marriage is falling apart the world is filled with such filth and perversion.So no way I would not go to something so nasty and wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-17 17:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be interesting to see what goes on...but as far as participating...no way. I would be a bit concerned about who invited her. And why? I would hate to think she was trying to cover her tracks by getting me involved in a warped lifestyle...
Hmmm...could she have cheated?
I'd definately be asking some questions though. And thinking about it more... no I wouldn't want to go with any understanding.
2006-10-17 17:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go and check it out and say that we are only there to look. Of course afterward I would also be talking to my wife about what her ideas are for your future sex life. It can be nice to find out that your wife is kinkier than you thought.
Stress when its time to stress. Right now just keep your eyes open.
2006-10-17 17:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey dummy marriage is a commitment between a man and woman not a man and a woman and a whole lot of other people. No it would not be OK
2006-10-17 17:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by Ellen J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would feel very afraid. It obviously just didn't pop up and I'd wonder what she's been doing behind my back. Swinging never brings a couple closer. Danger danger danger.
2006-10-17 17:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋