Newly divorced - not a kid - been dating on & off with this guy since April, but have known him for years - came on strong in the beginning, but then went "AWOL" - admitted he has commitment issues since ex cheated on him - was looking for casual sex - i never gave it to him - told him let's just be friends - called me about 1 month after that slightly drunk saying how much he missed me, knows that he hurt me, then went AWOL again for another month - called me again this weekend saying he misses me, but sober this time - told him i was slightly involved with someone else, and now he is coming on strong again - calling or texting everyday since last weekend - is it that same old story, he wants me now that i'm with someone else?
2006-10-17 09:45:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is the classic Old Dog with a bone...he doesn't want it but he doesn't want any other dog to have it.......dump him.
I had this girl play with my emotions...she couldn't decide to date me or not...then when I had found another girl and started dating she came on strong and I was her morning and evening star! Well I ended the relationship and starting dating her...she became complacent and we went off and on for months. I finally got fed up and dumped her for good. But it was very hard for me and it did hurt for awhile.....but I knew that I needed to be rid of her for my benefit/survival.
If this guy can't commit or is vasilating then he's unstable... Don't latch on to unstable guys....there's plenty of guys out there for you who will appreciate you.
Good luck
2006-10-17 10:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like this fellow unearths you a mission and would't get up to. when you're after better than an casual sexual courting at this aspect on your existence, then you actually elect to shop searching because once you succumb to this fellows charms he will be roving on to greener pastures. What are you searching for in this courting? If that's no longer a similar aspect he's after then do not waste a even as. Mr. authentic is presented waiting to be stumbled on.
2016-10-16 05:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason he is coming in and out of your life like that is because you let him your his on call girlfriend when he can't find anyone else he calls you. You need to get rid of him your better than backup and you deserve much more.
2006-10-17 09:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on. You KNOW what the guy is about. He doesn't want a real relationship- unless you have a relationship with somebody else. He wants casual sex. You don't. Soooo, forget about him.
2006-10-17 10:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how the hell should i know if he's just interested because you're involved? not enough info to determine that. question is what are u lookin for. this guy say's he's only interested in casual sex. does that work for u? if it does then go for it. if it doesn't stop viewing him, and in this case, refering to him as someone with potential to be a future mate.
2006-10-17 10:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guys a loser let him go, what he is interested in he was not getting so he backed off, now that he See's you in a different relationship he is seeing you in a new light, but he may already figure your his in his eyes. if he had wanted an honest relationship he would have been working on it
2006-10-17 09:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he isn't for real! If he was he would love you for who you were, how you treated him, and how much you loved him but not for your sex! I would just say NO next time you talk to him because any guy who is going to treat me like a washrag is not one for me! Hope things work out for you!
2006-10-17 09:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is trying to screw around on who ever he is with. You don't need games anyhow, no matter what the reason. You just went through a divorce. Keep on dating...but not him.
2006-10-17 09:50:24 · answer #8 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either u keep him at arms length or u get rid of him. He sounds confused and doesn't really know what he wants. I wouldn't expect anything from him if I were u.
2006-10-17 10:09:26 · answer #9 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since, in your own words, your not a kid. I would say he is probably not either and he would like you to give him some!
2006-10-17 09:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋