Every single thing i say about her she thinks it in a bad way she is very easy to get in a fight with and im always the one saying sorry she is selfish what do i do?
2006-10-17 09:43:44 · 16 answers · asked by cass! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Let her know how u feel in a nice way just say it seems that we cant get along did I do something that hurt you or do u have a problem with me. If she says no then let her know that you are sick of her being a nasty b!%&* and that if she cant have a better look on what you say then yall cant be friends.
2006-10-17 09:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by Decizion J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems there is an obvious miscommunication between the two of you. Your question is very broad, but I have some suggestions. Are there things you two repeatedly fight about? If it is, maybe you two should sit down together and ask each other why you keep fighting about the same thing. Is it a difference in opinion, or is it personal and does someone feelings get hurt?
Your friend's opinion is her right to have, and you can respect each other without agreeing on it. If it is a matter of opinion, then you two should not take it personally.
Also, as your question details, it seems you don't like her very much. Do you want to work on your relationship and keep your friendship alive? You need to ask yourself these questions because if you truly think she is selfish and you are sick and tired of her - why are you friends in the first place?
Maybe you should think, and rediscover, why you two became friends. If that connection isn't strong enough or you feel like it's not worth it, then maybe its time to move on. But if you think it is worth saving, you should sit down with her and tell her how you feel. “When you do this, I feel that.” Because if you don’t address how her actions are hurting your feelings and friendship, then she will never know and things will never be resolved.
2006-10-17 16:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value the friendship, you must learn to communicate with her. Do not judge her but understand her. Perhaps your situations are different, like home life and relationships. You must talk to her and explain to her your feelings. If she doesn't care enough to discuss it then you are her friend, but she is not your friend.
Like my grandma used to say, if you don't want to cut all ties with her annoying azz, "then treat her with a long handle spoon".
Meaning remain civil with her but do it from a distance.
Note: my best friend was an annoying **** however I loved her - today we have been best friends for 36 years, all of our lives.
I love her to death but she is still an annoying ****, i make sure that I am in a very good mood when i talk to her. I think our friendship lasted this long because after high school we didn't see each other as often and was so happy to see each other when we finally did.
Perhaps you guys are hanging out too much this happens with marriages too , when someone is up under you 24/7 you tend get tired of them.
2006-10-17 16:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jazz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that your Grandmama always told you, surround yourself with people who love you and treat you well. You don't treat me well. My feelings are always hurt and if there is something going on in your life that you need to get off your shoulders, feel free, but I cannot take this abuse anymore. I like surrounding myself with those who truly love me and I don't feel very much love from you lately. I need to distance myslf from you for a while. If you come around someday, give me a call, but I just cannot do this anymore. It is taxing me.
I had to say the very same things to a friend of mine once also. and it hurt. But, I was right in doing so. A once happy person, she morphed into a witch that nobody could stand. People change. Let her go. If she does your heart no good. Let her go. Good luck.
2006-10-17 16:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by sherijgriggs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is, try to take a break from one another. Spend some time with a different friend, or even alone. Sometimes, all you need is to be apart, in order for the time you do spend together to matter at all.
2006-10-17 16:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by optimismopski 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm...
never really had this problem
but i think that you should think to yourself first to see if she would make it into sumthing bad before you say anything to her
also maybe after you say something say "no offense"
or just ignore her for a little while and see if she approaches you and says sorry or why aren't we talking anymore, whats wrong? you shouldn't be saying sorry unless it was sumthing really bad that you said or it hurt her feelings
i know that i wouldn't be able to stand her personally....i wouldnt be her friend i have so many others...so i hope i helped even a little bit
2006-10-17 16:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by shelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like more trouble than shes worth.
2006-10-17 16:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have outgrown this relationship.Find other friends to spend your time with.It sounds like she has some underlieing personnal issues.They are not your issues.
2006-10-17 16:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new friend?
2006-10-17 16:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not rise to her.....Get a friend that respects you
2006-10-17 16:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by Pennyless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋