Does my husband want to leave me if he considers himself "locked down and frustrated"?

Answer 1

"Locked down and frustrated". that's a good one. I'll have to add this to "I need my space".

He's a quitter and has no desire to even work at making the relationship work. Huh.....so much for marriage is an institution huh?

Men that wish to take a hike either have a little something on the side or they have some type of lifestyle...whether it be drinking or fishing all day....something they want to do and they know it will be unacceptable to you. So rather than discuss it...or tell the girlfriend the party is over...this is the excuse that will be used.

I think if you start looking you'll find the answer to this. Good luck!

Answer 2

Have a talk with him and find out what he actually means when he tells you he feels 'locked down and frustrated.'

You might want to consider marriage counseling. Or perhaps you might seek counseling for yourself. Are you giving him enough space? Are you too clingy? Are you watching his every move? Are you being fair to him? These are some questions you need to contemplate which might help you understand better why he feels the way he does.

Answer 3

If he's shared these feelings to you. It sounds like a cry for help or he'd be gone already, without telling you had he feels. He's most likely expressed these feelings as a last ditch effort, a plea, trying to communicate how he feels in hopes there can be a way of working things out.
He sounds torn between how he feels about you, his hopes for the future with you and his relationship. And giving up (What he may see as a loosing battle) on the whole relationship.
If you don't want to lose him. Give him the opportunity to express what is making him feel this way. Try not to get defensive or upset by his answers. This is how he feels, you asked and you don't want to lose him.
Sometimes the truth hurts. And there are times we don't realize how we are until someone shows us.

Answer 4

You didn't mention his age or your family at all. So let me comment from personal experience.

There comes a time in a man's life when he realizes that for the most part, he is all he will ever be. He realizes that he has to keep the job or profession he has in order to support the family and send the kids to college and pay the bills. He realizes he's never going to be a CEO, author, musician, rancher, or whatever secret dream he may have.

That epiphany is acceptable and even satisfying, if he feels fulfilled in the other areas of his life. In other words, if he feels "successful" as a husband, father, friend, and lover, it's easy to accept things the way they are. If not, he's in for one hell of a mid-life crisis. The sense of loss will be quite powerful. He may even become depressed.

Let him know now that you value him and everything he does. Remind him frequently. Help get through it. Knowing that he is loved, respected, valued, and DESIRED will go a long way to alleviating his sense of loss.

Good luck

Answer 5

he needs to sit down with you and be more specific. it is obvious that something is troubling him deeply.

dont accuse and jump to conclusions. if anything, he is reaching out for help.

find out what is bothering him, and make options together on how to fix it.

even if it means counseling, or whatever. if you love him, and you know he loves you. help each other, to the point of getting professional help.

something is obviously upsetting him. dont walk away from him now, talk with him, and sort this matter out, calmly and detailed.

if anything, he may have had just a very bad week at work.

if he doesnt feel like talking to a counselor, talk about body work (massage therapy).

i am a massage therapist, i own a few spa's here in the states. the body holds in emotions. men hide more than women do.

women, we cry at the drop of hat (ha ha) - men dont. most do not release emotions and hold it all in.

acupressure is a good way to start off to get used to the idea of receiving body work. acuPRESSURE not puncture - you leave your clothes on, and then most definitely, a full body massage.

ask about trigger point. painful (ha) - but it works! i myself have had lots of trigger point done. i cry (not because of the pain), because i have had a stressful decade. and my legs and neck are knotted up with emotion/tension.

it works. suggest that to him. both of you go together.

i have personally made over 3 dozen macho men cry (lawyers, construction workers, bankers etc.) when i do full body work. they sleep better, eat better, they are smiling more. check into it. that may be what he needs. cheaper than a counselor!

good luck.

Answer 6

Not necessarily but...
Something is definitely wrong and if it isn't fixed then more than likely he will leave.

If you are committed the the happiness of this relationship you will find out what is wrong. Even if it means admitting you may be the cause.. not saying you are but it could be.

He may not even understand what is wrong.. he just knows something isn't right. You may need counseling to sort through it.

Answer 7

I dont understand the question. Does he want you to lock him down and frustrate him? Use a thick chain and a Masterlock.

Answer 8

I don't think so. I have been married 28 years and sometimes you feel like your traped, not necessarily in your marriage but in your job, in how much you owe. just every thing. It's something everybody goes though.
I wouldn't worry about it to much.

Answer 9

Not necessarily . he made need to have time for himself as well as you need your freedom and girl time. If you are possesive then you need to give a little and see how things work out . good luck

Answer 10

Well, he is certainly not happy, so I would say that chances are fairly high that, yes, he does want to leave you. If you know what is making him feel that way, you'd do well to do something about it as soon as possible.