I always try to join clubs and organizations and always end up feeling exploited and used. I'm good enough to lick envelopes for your PTA fundraiser, but not good enough to get invited to the book club or anything like that. I haven't had a close friend in six years.
2006-10-17 09:34:58 · 5 answers · asked by Mary M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Are there any support or friendship groups for military wives or families? Maybe you could call the base or whatever it's called (I'm not military so I'm not sure what terminology to use - sorry) and see if there are some groups like that. They may be more empathetic to your needs and less likely to snub you.
I still think clubs are the best idea for making friends in the short term, but maybe try to find those less oriented toward volunteering, and more oriented toward shared interests - for example, I am in a Scrabble club, and I know there are other clubs for game lovers.
You could also consider joining a group that is nationwide and has local chapters, such as Toastmasters (public speaking and confidence-building organization). The individual chapters are likely to be very welcoming to someone like you because you already "belong."
I hope these suggestions are helpful. Best wishes!
2006-10-17 09:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be your self, grew up an Army brad, you are headed in the right direction, just make sure to pick clubs and organizations that you really want to be in and do nto be afraid to say no. as far as a close friend, good luck with that, i am 35 now and that is the one thing that i have not had, tried to stay in touch with alot of people but never amounted to anything. in one way i was happy to grow up in the military, got to see alot and meet alot of people, but never really had a place to call home.
2006-10-17 09:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by Gee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda had the same problem turns out friends arent all that great you and a freind can have some good times but a good true friend is hard to find and even harder to keep in the end friends only slow you down its friends associates and homies that will always have your back take it from me if you do end up finding a friend wait a while to tell them about the moving around stuff get to know the person first then get their email or address and have a pen pal
2006-10-17 09:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
become a proffesional at something you like..chess, fishing, bowling, or whatever and people with like interest will soon congregate. My best long term friends are ones that share interest in collectibles.
2006-10-17 09:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are meeting asssholes! if people are friends it wouldnt matter if you get deployed alot. my friend and i kept in tact for 12 yrs due to military. no excuses you are meeting asswipessssss
2006-10-17 09:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by prettysexycalves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋