gone , bneing she is the only girl, she has been nasty to me for sometime,unk nowing she has this meal..i found out tonight .i feel; she has a in trest in one off the party but she says ,get over myself and she will do what she wants to do ..i go for a pint after work 2 or 3 times a week, but she also joins me..am i being a nob or i9f the tables where turned would she mind...?????
2006-10-17 09:33:18 · 36 answers · asked by Andy K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is being insensitive and you need to tell her how you feel about this. Yes if the shoe were in the other foot she would probably feel the same. If she had no problem with you going out with a bunch of women THEN you do have a problem.
Talk it through with her, best of luck
2006-10-17 09:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by kaz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do wonder if she really is going out for a meal with 10 workmates or is using that as an excuse and to try and pacify you when she may actually only be going out with one guy. Its amazing the excuses some people will come up with if they want to cover their tracks if their having an affair. And just because she comes home to you every night doesn't mean to say she's not been with someone else wither its during the day, evening or even half the night and she comes in late. Only you within yourself will sense if something is amiss and you may have to do some checking up to help reasure you either way it is.
Its hard to feel trust in this situation your in especially since she's being nasty to you as well and she seems to have the attitude that she'll do what she wants to do...as you already said, however, that kind of attitude towards you is concerning.
Did she let you know what restaurant she was going to? was a table booked for them? because maybe you could have checked (discreetly) at some point, to see if her and her workmates was actually there.
All you can do is when she comes home ask her were she went (what restaurant) and try and find out what meal she had, what the place was like etc, but I wouldn't ask her that kind of stuff tonight, I'd wait untill tomorrow to ask that, and you can gaudge by her reactions if she is really trying to hide something from you or not.
Even if your wife was seeing someone else and if you turned the tables on her, so to say, I'm sure her reaction is one where she would mind and Im sure she would have a few choice words to say if she suspected you. Strangely that does happen, even although she well could be going with someone else herself.
Dont take this issue lightly or think things will get better between you, get talking to her and try and find out what is going on with her, you may not get the answers your looking for but at least it will give you some indication on how she feels about the state of your marriage and you can decide from there what to do next.
Good luck
2006-10-17 11:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by snogger18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since this is really bothering you you should try to talk to her after she ahs had time to cool off since she was being nasty about it. Why did she not tell you until today, that was kind of rude. Maybe you should trying going for a pint with out her every once in a while and see how she feels about it. If she really love you though, she wouldn't mind reassuring you that thereis nothing going on, so her being nasty about this makes me suspicious as well...
2006-10-17 10:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by PRL8268 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when your wife comes home you need to have a serious talk. Who cares if she had a work dinner and is out with a bunch of guys, she should have said something to you sooner. If my husband pulled that **** his *** would be locked the hell out of the house!! My husband would never do that to me and I would never do that to him. We have what all married people should have for each other, respect!! Good luck.
Make sure you are both sober before you start having a talk. You don't want a drunken argument! On another note maybe you should wait to talk to her until morning.
2006-10-17 09:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by RASBERRI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is going to have an affair she will have one. Nothing you will do will change the outcome. But obviously the more you nag and moan the more she will be drawn to the men at her place of work. Remember needy is not attractive. However if all that was a bit harsh try giving really good cunnilingus and buy flowers without being asked. That always works for me. x
2006-10-17 09:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u gotta try trusting her or has something happened before 2 make u feel uneasy bout it,if she has an interest in someone else and is bein nasty i'd talk 2 her before it goes 2 far,as for u goin 4 a pint,which english bloke doesn't but in future i'd tell her 2 stay home n see how she likes that.good luck mate.
2006-10-17 09:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by kasey c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would try to find out if its gone farther then that, have been their and its not a nice place to be. in my case it turned out one of our renters was involved with her. when i found out he was claiming he was going to get the business the car and the house. if the whole office was going and its the first time it just might be that a business meeting, but if the pattern continues over a period of time. it might be wise to have her followed and see if their is anything to it. people who don't want you around have something to hide in most cases. a marriage is supposed to be equal and it sounds like she wants to change the rules of the game. another thing to consider is she talking over the supper table about things that are going on, or does she refuse to discuss her work. if so then that's a good sign that there is something going on that is not above board, or honest
2006-10-17 09:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable that you're upset if you're wife has been being nasty to you, and not told you about the meal. BUT equally, she works with these guys, and it sounds like a meal out with the people from work, which sounds perfectly innocent. Give her a break..
2006-10-17 09:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by vickyf145 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is being nasty to you then there is definitely something wrong in the relationship. If she has interest in someone else then there is definitely a problem.
You have two choices... figure out what the problem is and fix it or get out. If left unsolved the problem will only get worse.
2006-10-17 09:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work in a female orientated environment (I'm a nurse) and my missus has no probs with me going on work nights out even though I am kinda flirty but she knows that I will always be home to her, why because she makes me want to be with her so maybe you shouldnt be a bit of a dick about things like this and she wont want anyone else
2006-10-17 09:40:27 · answer #10 · answered by John "Freddie" West 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋