Is it wrong to clean your house only on weekends?

Question

My boyfriend decided to leave me because he says I am a slob, we have been together for 4yrs and have a 10 month old. I started working 10 hours a day 6 days a week and I have 4 yr old from previous realtionship. He juts lost his job and has gotten very demanding on house chores. I wash dishes and take out the trash daily but the rest of the chores are done on weekends. He thinks I don't do enough and decided to leave. am I wrong?

Answer 1

It's not that your wrong, but that he is right.

Answer 2

I don't think you can leave the rest of the house - besides the dishes and the trash for the weekends as I am certain this is when he'd like to spend time with you. But since you're busy working during the week (do you really need to work 60 hours every week?), the two of you should have talked about this beforehand - say like WHEN you found out you were going to have to work 10 hours a day 6 days a week. You could have cleaned at last one room every night and done "touch-ups" on all of them on the weekend so the two of you could have had SOME free time together. (By the way, I'm a bit of a slob, too, but I do do MY SHARE of the cleaning during the week.)

Answer 3

He didn't leave because of the chores, he left because he's irresponsible! If he was home during the day he could have taken his pick of chores to do while you were slaving away at work! A working mother doesn't have much time to do chores during the week, other than keeping the dishes and the sheets clean. I decided long ago that the best I could do during the week was to make the bed every morning, wipe down the sinks and countertops each evening after I cooked dinner, and kick everything else on the floor out of my way going to bed. You are not wrong, now you have one less person to clean up after!

Answer 4

Whoa, he's the one sitting around the house but he's calling YOU a slob? Sweetheart, I think you should realize that his leaving you was more a blessing than anything; relationships should be equal partnerships, and if he cared about you so much and was genuinely concerned about your cleanliness, he'd help and support you, not make demands and call you a slob.

You're working your tail off and he's making judgements? Good riddance. You sound like you're too strong and hard-working of a woman to have to put up with that.

And no, it's not wrong to clean house only on weekends, unless you're especially messy. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Hell no girl! since your the one that is working and paying the bills it's only right that he cooks and clean. He is really being selfish, wanting everything for basically nothing. Working 10 hrs a day and taking care of a 10 month old baby is tough and you are going to need help and I say if he is not willing to give you that help than you are more than likely better off with out him and to answer your question no you are not wrong he is.

Answer 6

You are better off without him. How can he say one word about how much you do when you are gone WORKING 60 hours a week. If you decide that you love him enough to let him back in, then tell him that because you are working so much, he can pitch in with the house work over and beyond his "share." If he doesn't like that, tell him to "get to kickin rocks."

I know how you feel---I have the same schedule, and I don't clean at all until the weekends.

Answer 7

Oh my god... just my opinion and I know relationships when they end are painful... but I would say good riddance to this person! Working 10 hour days 6 days a week and having a baby and a toddler... you're lucky to be able to clean once a month. Nobody needs that kind of partner, because he doesn't seem to be much of a partner to begin with. No you're not wrong. Good luck to you and more power to you!

Answer 8

well... it depends on how good you clean it? i mean is it that u just clean the rooms and sweep them or just wash up ? thats not cleaning thats just my chores at home... and its not 10% of cleaning the cleaning my mom does. you should reallllllyyyy clean like scrub the kitchen and scrub the bathroom, toilet,tub(or standing shower)those stuff, mop the floor ( if you have a carpet vacume if thats how you spell it) dust down everything clean the mirrors with vinegar and a washrag. clean the counters, the fans (airco) put everything neatly in place ( and keep them so ). do the laundry . i think instaid of all the work in one day, why not devide it make a list... or just pay a maid, and she'll do it ( not for free) but that gives to time to see what all she does and you learn it too. :) sorry but now my mom is calling me to help peal some potato's and help cook. i hope i helped you. sorry to hear about your boyfriend. sorry bye bye

Answer 9

With your schedule, I think whatever you're able to do during the week is admirable. Cleaning on the weekend is fine. There's nothing wrong with that. Working people tend to lead busy lives, so waiting to clean on your day off is certainly acceptable. You're probably better off without your boyfriend. If he was too trifling and lazy to help you -- if having a cleaner house was that important, he would have done some of the housework himself. You're better off without that guy.

Answer 10

He's a pig for not helping you keep things up and you are better off without him. I was raised with my mom doing certain chores on different days of the week, but the housecleaning was done on Saturday.

Answer 11

He is wrong. If he lost his job he should be doing the housework. I work full time and my husband does most of the housework because he is disabled. I am not working two full time jobs, not even on weekends, and housework is a full time job. There is nothing wrong with cleaning your house on the weekends, but not every weekend, you need some time for yourself.