how do i know if my girlfriend wants me to propose to her?

Question

my girlfriend and i have been dating for 8 months now and I really love her and want to propose to her but i don't know if she wants me to... we have talked about kids and marriage and have been able to talk to eachother about everything that is going on, I feel that she wants me to propose to her but is there any signs that she may show that would clue me in on proposing? And how important is it to ask the parents before doing so? her parents are separated and she doesn't talk to her father, she lives with her mother. Do i absolutly need to ask her mother first? Also with the ring, is it important to have the actual engagement ring when proposing or is it okay to take her with after the event to pick one that she likes?

also another quick note, we are both 19 and her father is not around because he left by girlfriends mother when she was little, as for wedding talk, she brought it up and said she had it planned out and when i asked her about it she said she wanted it outside and the rest was up to me from there keep up with the good answers, this really helps

Answer 1

You have asked a lot of good questions here. The best sign that she is looking to get married is an increase in talk about weddings, specifically her future marriage to you. Second, she will drop engagement ring hints; this will give you a good idea on what type of ring to get her. I feel it is very important to talk to one of the parents before hand. Traditionally, you would ask her father for his daughters hand, but in your case, it would be more appropriate to ask the mother; you should leave the father out of it. You should have the ring when your propose. Good Luck!

Answer 2

First of all.... congratulations!

She already knows. You already talked about kids and marriage, so she know what your intentions are.

Wait until your anniversary or after to propose to her. A one year anniversary is an important milestone in a relationship and after that women know that things are serious enough to take to the next step.

You can go with her to the mall or online or catalogue on hand an cassualy ask her what kind of ring she likes the most. She will get a HUGE clue if you do this though. Better to surprise her! Go to a jewely store with the excuse of having a watch repaired, she will start to browse to rings! pay attention of what she says, she might say something like.. I hate yellow gold, or pear shaped is so tacky etc.

But definetly you NEED a ring to propose. If you don't then she might get dissapointed and she might think that you are not serious! Don;t do this! I wouldn't recommend it. She wants to remember this forever and she won;t want to say to your kids that you didn't have a ring!

If she is not really picky about jewelry, then go and pick one for her. You will always be safe with a platinum band, princess cut 1 carat diamond solitaire (she will love it). You can tell her afterwards that if the ring is not of her liking, that you can go togetehr and pick another and that that would NOT hurt your feelings and that she is free to exchange it.

If she doesn't talk to her father, then there is no point in asking, as is not traditional to ask the mother for her daughter's hand in marriage. However, you might annouce your engament to her and ask her if she would accept you into the family as your fiances future husband. That is more appropriate.

CONGRATS and good luck

EDIT: You are both TOO young. Never mind with my advice! Marriage is for grown ups. Don't ruin your life and hers. Go to college instead.

Answer 3

You'll know in your heart if it's time to ask. Although, 8 months is a little soon.

Ask for asking her parents, it's usually a southern/old fashioned thing. If she's really close to her mom. I'd say ask her mom. I have a couple of friends that say the ring isn't important when he's asking because they would want to help pick it out. However my best friend says that she needs a ring when people proposed to. So it depends on your girlfriend and her personailty.

Answer 4

Talk to her a little more about getting married. You really ought to have pretty much decided this together before you pop the question. It can be very romantic, too. "Wouldn't it be great if we got married?" If she's enthusiastic you know she's ready. You can have as long an engagement as you want.

I don't think you need to ask her parents if you are both adults. That's old-fashioned and comes from the idea that girls are property under their parents until they become property under their husbands. If you feel strongly you should talk to her mother, do it after you and your girlfriend have already decided what's going to happen. That's more respectful to your future wife. It's her decision, not Mommy's.

Answer 5

Eight months may seem like a long time, but it is not compared to a lifetime. I'd recommend further open discussions with each other while continuing to get to know each other. Ultimately, a proposal is romantic, but marriage needs to be a mutual decision. And that's a decision between prospective bride and groom. Assuming she is of legal age, you don't have to ask her parents' permission. It's her decision. You certainly should keep them well informed.
Please note that I say that not only as one who got married a long time ago, but also as a father whose older daughter just got married.
As a sort of aside, I would hope you might find some way to bring your girlfriend's dad back into this.

Answer 6

If you have talked about children and that stuff I'm sure she wants you to propose.
It would be better if you have the ring at the time you propose, but be sure it is her size.
If she is older than 21 you don't have to ask her parents first, you can do it after she accepted to marry you, then you can both tell your parents.

Answer 7

you can stroll through the mall and pass by the jewelry store and ask her hey let go look at rings and see her reaction. If she is all excited to look then she is ready. That way you can get an idea what she wants. And YES you need to ask her parent for her hand in marriage.

Answer 8

8 months isnt really that long...and when the time is right you will know she wants you to propose. Id say hold off a while.

Answer 9

No I don't think you have to ask your mother and I think it's perfectly alright for the two of you to pick out the ring after. My finace and I picked out my ring before he asked me to marry him - he had it for weeks before he popped the question & I had almost forgotten we picked it out

Answer 10

Ask her mom or dad first, it shows respect and maturity. You can also maybe make your own ring for her beforehand. My sister got a engagement ring from her boyfriend that was handmade like twine rapped aroud a ring, she loVEd it!

p.s. ASK HER!!!