My husband and I have been fighting for months and he has a temper and is very verbally abusive. I have asked him to leave and would like a seperation but he says he wont leave because he wants to kiss his daughter good night every night. He makes me feel bad about trying to kick him out he says im taking his daughter away from him. He has told me that he does not love me and has no respect for me and he is staying only for our daughter. Another thing is my parents own the house and i make all the money he quit his job several months ago after not making any money for years at it. He also sends our daughter to daycare and does nothing around the house. Im so confused on what to do next. Help
2006-10-17 09:22:05 · 24 answers · asked by juels222 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ditch him, just seperate though, then you don't have to divy up your finances. Then you can squirrel it all away somewhere he can't find it before the big divorce.
2006-10-17 09:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by devilUknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're joking right? This man - and I use the term loosely - doesn't care enough about your daughter to be her caregiver during the day while he sits around on his lazy butt and does nothing but you are going to feel bad for taking away his "right" to kiss his daughter goodnight every night? He tells you he has no respect for you even though he is living in your parents house, cleaned by you, eating the food you provide for him? Of course he doesn't respect you, you are allowing yourself to be a doormat! At the same time while you are allowing him to stay there living the life of luxury he is verbally abusing you and setting the EXAMPLE for your daughter of the life she should expect when she is grown. Is that what you want for her? Is this the life you want for yourself? Obvisously you are smart and a hard worker. You don't need a cad like that bringing you down. Kick him to the curb TONIGHT! Save yourself and your daughter! It's not too late but don't waste another day on this sorry excuse for a human being!
Praying for you & your daughter! God bless you both!
2006-10-17 09:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good day care provider, serve him with separation papers and change the locks. Surround yourself with a network of good friends for moral support. Your daughter doesn't need to be around all the fighting and turmoil. If he was really staying only for his daughter he has a funny way of showing it. And if he really wanted what was best for his daughter he'd leave, quit the verbal abuse, get a job to help support his daughter and respect your wishes. Stand your ground honey, you and your daughter deserve better.
2006-10-17 09:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should file for divorce, or seperation, get a restraining order and have the police enforce it for you. There is no reason what so ever to stay with someone like that. Since your parents own the house he has no legal claim to it. You can do it, be strong. When you file, let the child care center know and ask them to not let him have her if you feel that he will run with her. Prayer always works. Good luck!
2006-10-17 09:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're confused? Hmmm...that isn't what I'd say you were. Staying for your daughter huh? Glad you believe that.
I have an idea.....why not take your daughter's well being into consideration as you seemingly don't care about yours and get this jerk out of the house?
Honestly...you people amaze me sometimes. No control over your lives. With kids mired in this to boot!
2006-10-17 09:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confused?????
Remember you set the example of relationships for your daughter, do you want her growing up thinking that what she has witnessed between the two of you is a normal loving relationship?
The man told you he doesn't love you, he has no respect for you, verbally abuses you, he doesn't have a job....!
No confusion there hun, tell the bum to hit the road......! Find someone who deserves you and your daughter...
2006-10-17 09:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Pale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good thing your parents own the house - that gives you a leg to stand on - get his sorry *** out of that house - It will do your daughter no good to watch and hear her parents fighting and her father belittling her mother. Please he is a fool and he is manipulating the crap out of you and using your daughter as leverage. Wake up girl smell the coffee, roses or what ever u want but get him OUT!!!! You and your daughter will both be better for it!!
2006-10-17 09:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say to divorce him get a restraining order since he is abusive, he is a loser, and life is just too short to live with a person like this. your parents own the house, you have the job, he is using you, i would not let him decide my future, every minute you stay with him is time you could be enjoying life, and having peace. you hold all the cards, you really don't need him. don't allow him to hold you emotional hostage.
2006-10-17 15:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is laying a guilt trip on you . he is using your daughter . it is not good for her to hear or see you two fighting . he probably has no place to go. you pay the bills , kick him out he means you no good nothing but harm . punish him make him see that what he had was good . find a man that honors,cherishes and appreciates you and also someone that is good to you and your daughter
2006-10-17 09:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer. He is using you...and he is using your daughter as an excuse to sit on his butt while you bring home the bacon. Your daughter does not need a role model like that.
2006-10-17 09:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by Kookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋