My fiance and I are tryin to have a baby but I am so irregular that we dont know when is the best time to try.

Question

If anybody knows when it would be the best time to try and concieve a baby PLEASE let me know. I get so frustrated tryin and tryin to have a baby and nothing happens!!! Thanks,
Karrie G

Answer 1

Sometimes if you're on the birth control pill for a period of time, say a year, to straighten out your period to a consistent cycle does help. With your period in better control you could try using ovulating detectors to determine your fertility. Also you may want to talk to your doctor. He can give you injections to increase fertility if thats a possibility. This is a very hard emotional strain when you want a baby badly. Talk to your doctor and see what he recommends. What makes it hard to give any advice is that you have irregular periods. Try to get your periods more regular, you will have a greater chance of knowing when your ovulating. Sorry I can't be more helpful.

Answer 2

You are not alone. Many couples have trouble ttc simply because they don't know enough about the whole reproductive process, which includes way more than just having sex.

First of all you need to know if and when you are ovulating. Just because your cycles are not regular does not mean you aren't ovulating. However, if you want to speed up the process of conception, you may want to make an appointment with your OBGYN first and discuss that you are ttc. I would actually recommend that first because they have the knowlege and resources to steer you in the right direction.

If not, I would suggest charting your daily basal body temperature. You can get learn how to do this and chart for free at fertilityfriend.com. This web-site also gives valuable information about ovulation signs and best time for conception. If I can summarize, the best time for conception is the 2 days prior to ovulation and the day of. One sign that ovulation is about to begin is raw egg white cervical mucus (discharge) a couple of days before ovulation. When you see this, have sex every other day. Sperm generally live 2 days in the womb, so it's not necessary to have sex every day. Also, sperm need about 36 hours to rebuild, so it's not always good to have sex every day. Once the egg is released, you only have a 12-24 hour window for the egg to be fertilized by the sperm. Therefore, it's best if the sperm is already present when the egg is released. The egg white mucus actually protects the semen.

Since your cycles are irregular, I would suggest having sex every other day from day 8 of your cycle, until at least day 22. Day 1 is the first day of your last period.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Everyone should not be so judgemental. Just because THEY dont think you have a right to have a baby because your life isnt "perfect". Dont let them stop you. They will be the ones who wait and wait for the "perfect" life that never comes, and then decide at 38 or 39 that they want to have a baby and will be on here complaining about how they cant get pregnant or how they are afraid that because they waited so long, they have a higher risk of down syndrome babies.
OK done ranting.
The best thing you can do is buy an ovulation monitor at the drugstore to keep track of when you are ovulting. Then you will know what days are the most likely that you can get pregnant.

Answer 4

This is my standard answer......... go get a book called Taking Charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler
This book will help you with all of your menstrual and conception questions. It’s for all women - not just women trying to conceive. It covers everything from temperature to mucus checking, etc.. It will help you understand your body and all the myths about it. It will help you time when you are ovulating and the best times to conceive – or not! It tells you how to figure out your cycle and what to expect. My husband and I tried for a year to conceive and nothing happened. The first month I used the book we conceived right away. Now I am due Feb 2. It's about knowing your body and knowing when you are fertile or not. You can pick and choose what you do with your info. Good luck and don't listen the all the myths!

Answer 5

You need to look into charting and natural family planning. It will help you "figure out" your cycles, even if they are irregular. That way you will know when you are ovulating and when the best times to try are.

It does take a little practice, so don't expect to get pregnant next week, but it is highly effective. I know there are also products out there that tell you when you're ovulating, but if you aren't sure when you're coming up on a period to begin with, I'm not sure how effective they would be.

Here is a site with a lot of info, and even offers a "home study" course. There are also couples and groups that will help you learn, according to the site. It is Catholic-orientated, but you obviously don't have to be Catholic to use it! :-) http://ccli.org/

A huge list of sites that can help: http://www.bygpub.com/natural/natural-family-planning.htm

Answer 6

Karrie, now you are aware that to get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.

After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.

Answer 7

Have you spoken to your doctor about Chlomid? It's supposed to get you ovulating..............., you probably don't ovulate on a regular basis.... hence your periods being irregular. Also try having sex every other day....... ( I know.. you will be exhausted... especially since you don't know when you're ovulating)... but if you haven't been doing that... , then I would start trying it for the next month........, you might hit a bulls eye this time around.... doing it every other night will guarantee sperm being in you for the egg to become fertilized.... sperm last for at least 5 days. Best of luck to you!!!!

Answer 8

If you are irregular, stop trying to guess when.

Have sex every other day (at least).

Positions where sperm stays in your body (you on the bottom) may be better. Some posters say that positions from behind put the sperm closer to the cervix. My wife and I had no difficulty getting pregnant twice, and both times were using her on her stomach, with me on top of her from behind, so I guess we satisfied both those, though we weren't using it for that reason ... apparently, raising your hips for a while after intercourse before getting up and walking around can help.

Answer 9

I was in the same situation.... I bought an ovulation predictor kit from CVS (the sticks you pee on) and we had sex every 3rd day. Seemed to work, I never figured out when I ovulated but I got pregnant within the first month of trying.

Answer 10

Don't let them bother you because they are being judgemental me and my fiance are trying to have a baby too.I hope you get what you want and yes it is very frustrating.I am 4 days late and getting - pregnancy results anyways go to this website since you are irregular these methods will help you alot on telling you how to learn when you are ovulating(the best time to get pregnant).the site is:
http://www.womenshealth.org/a/ovulation_fertility.htm

Good Luck.