Won't stop asking for money even with alimony and childsupport etc...
2006-10-17 09:17:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IGNORE her. Everytime she asks for more money, give her a copy of the alimony/child support papers that show you are paying what the courts ordered.
2006-10-17 09:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by Boodie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to let her control you. You need to take a firm stand and draw the line.
I don't know the situation, but she should not be coming to you all the time asking for more money. You should tell her to go through her attorney if she needs more. In fact, tell her to contact you through the attorney when she wants to change anything in the settlement.
You have set visitation guidelines that she must follow so you are safe there, and the settlement states how much you should pay her. Now if the kids need something special that she can't afford and you can, it would be nice to get it for them.
2006-10-17 09:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a very simple HELL NO should be sufficient.
She can only do what you allow her. So.......change the home phone number, and only give her access to the cell. That way you answer it when you FEEL like it.
You aren't responsible for that. Tell her that THAT is a consequence of divorce.......LESS MONEY, and LESS ACCESS TO YOURS outside of child support and alimony.
2006-10-17 09:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk to her. ignoring it won't make the problem go away. maybe she needs opportunity to say what she needs to say as far as your break up with her. at the time she may have been going through the greiving process over losing the marriage, but hadn't really been able to say what she needed to to be able to let it go. start out by saying how sorry you are that things couldn't of been different with her, that when you entered the marriage with her wasn't with an intention of divorcing, but things are the way they are now and you have moved on and would like to see her move on. that you do what you can for your children, cause its not about her, not about you, the relationship now is being better parents. that if you didn't care for the children you would not still be around. but that you have moved on and need some space with your new partner. that all she is going to get financially is what the courts ordered. i wouldn't bring up a restraining order against her. that would more then likely agitate the situation. what you want to do is to make peace and possibly friendship for the childrens sake. that if she needs to talk about the children then she is free to call, otherwise not to call. leave it at that and see how it works out. let her have time to vent anything she wants to say. try not to interupt her...so she can feel like she's being heard. try not to make excuses for any accusations. just let her talk. when she finishes then go back and try to hash out anything that she brought up. come to some kind of terms with it so she can better let it go herself
2006-10-17 09:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't....as long as the child is being taken care of, then the rest isn't your concern. Tell her if she can't afford the lights, water or groceries, then you will take the child until she is financially ready to do her part. It is ok to give a little extra sometimes (football and other activities that pop up), but she has to learn to do for herself, not just the child.
2006-10-17 09:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU have the power of HANGING UP or NOT ANSWERING The PHONE if she is calling your residence ...
So take that opportunity and NOT answer the phone! Get a Caller ID box, get a Phone Answering Machine -- just don't pick up the phone!
This is between your husband and his ex -- NOT YOU -- so try NOT to be put in the middle (the WORST place to be by the way -- it could DESTROY your current relationship with your husband!)
2006-10-17 09:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she asks for money, say no and tell her to call her lawyer if she has any problems. Any money issues she has with you should get taken care of through your lawyers and the court.
Talk to your lawyer. Maybe you can get some type of restraining order.
2006-10-17 09:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what's required by the court. Take care of your kids. If she genuinely needs more money for the kids, give it to her. If she just wants a easy lifestyle, stand your ground.
2006-10-17 09:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by makawao_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't expect anything but alimony and child support....you have to tell her that firmly. That is all she will ever get...and don't give her a penny more.....
2006-10-17 09:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you are required to do, no more. Maybe the kids need to be with you if she can't take care of them!!
Does she have a bad spending habit? She probably can't manage her money.
2006-10-17 09:19:47 · answer #10 · answered by Baby #1 born August 2009 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋