I am 22 years old and I am wondering if it is too soon to become engaged to my better half of 4 months.?

Question

I know that this is the love of my life and I would give anything for him.

Answer 1

It is not to soon to get engaged but I wouldn't take it any further than that for at least three years. Good luck.

Answer 2

First off-throw out the term better half. You shouldn't be looking for someone to "complete" you. You are a whole person- the love of your life should be your partner in every way.
Second only you can answer the question. If engagement and marriage feel like it's the right move in your heart, then do it.

I will tell you that four months is a short time to know someone. I would also recommended premarital counseling. That way you can get out any questions and worries and know what you're getting into.

Answer 3

Im going to say...too soon. You've been together for 4 months and if you want a lifetime together, then why is it so important to sign the marriage documents now? What is the rush. If you know he's the love of your life then relax, enjoy and live a life together...build towards a future and then engage in the topic of marriage. And you are still in the lust stage. Definately dont make any major decisions in the lust stage. You'd be kicking yourself in the *** afterwards if things didnt work out and your divorced by the time your 25. Really, there is no rush.

Answer 4

Then give yourself the chance at loving life before you make the huge committment of getting married. Life is too short - the both of you should be experiencing all life has to offer. Get your careers going, see if you want to attend college, travel see the world and all it has to offer. Marriage is a job, a very loving and rewarding job but a job none the less and it takes everything you have. You don't want to wake up at 36 years of age wishing you did all the things you always dreamed about but couldn't because you got married too young. It gets even harder when children come along, having children is the greatest sacrifice a woman can make. Again also the most loving and rewarding but there are many things that may need to be given up to have said children. Don't rush you have your entire lives ahead of you. Enjoy one another without the obligation of marriage. I also advise if you haven't, date other people (and I don't mean sleep with other people), it honestly helps to make sure you are making the right decision about marrying the love of your life. God bless and good luck!!

Answer 5

You're going to have a bunch of people respond to your question with " way to young, don't know each other well enough, etc. You are the only one who can say if its meant to be or not. I'm 23yr myself and I've been married for three and a half years. I was only with my husband for six months before we tied the knot. I did know him for a very long time before we even started dating. I do have to say we are still very much in love today. Just make sure this isn't just a case of "LUST" . I know a few people that swore up and down they were in love and wanted to jump into a marriage with each other and luckily for both of their sake they realized it wasn't love just an old fashioned case of lust before they got married. How long have you known each other? Do you know for a fact that he feels exactly the same and when it comes down to it he isn't going to up and leave you in the dust. I can only say if you trust your heart and your gut than go for it! Has he already asked you to marry him? I wish you all the luck in the world. Remember if you know you love him you can always get engaged and see where it goes from there.

Answer 6

First, you have to find out if he would do the same for you. Four months isn't really long enough to know someone before you make such a life long commitment. Let it ride for another 6 months, let the relationship flourish, and see if you both feel the same about each other. I know that at 22 yrs your an adult, and can make your own decisions, but you don't want to make any mistakes either.

Best of luck to you both.

Answer 7

I think being engaged after 4 months is just rediculous. . . . .I mean thats not even long enough to really know anyone. . . .I know we don't know each other that well but that is just foolish unless you plan on being engaged for like a year and in that case I hope you have a ring alreadyand i hope he's not reusing that ring from a previous relationship that went sour. I mean an engagement ring selection should take time to find one that matches the quality and attributes to match your fiancee and I'm sorry but after 4 months, he shouldn't even know where to begin. Bottomline is thats too fast on any watch and in all actuality, everyone sitting around me agrees although they don't know you either. . . .its just the opinion of the group.

Answer 8

Yes--you are so young, don't rush into anything that quick! If you were 35+ then maybe, but you've got lots of time. Enjoy being young and in love without all the responsibility of kids and running a household. Trust me, I'm a 30-year old mother of 2 and I've been there.

Answer 9

you should be with that person for at least a year, i think you need to experience the 4 seasons with them first, everybody is crazy about each other at 4 months, wait longer and see what happens, you DO NOT want to get a divorce in the future, i got married at barely 21 but i was dating my husband for a little over a year before we married, i'm glad to because we had ups and downs but everything turned out great, you need that year to work out the kinks

Answer 10

Like WAY too soon. Maybe you should actually spend some time to get to know him (and no, you don't really know him after just 4 months). This is why the divorce rate is so high.