Has anyone been to a marriage counselor? Please share your experience. Did it help, and in what way?
2006-10-17 09:17:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It does help, if both of you want it, it sounds like you are the one making the effort. it never hurt to try, i like to think that everybody can change there ways, but always look out for yourself. If it works great, but if it doesn't just remimber there is always somebody that will treat you the way you sould be treated.
2006-10-17 09:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by Gee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to a Christian counselor for help. It worked! The main idea communication. He told me, "speak without being offensive and listen without being defensive". With consistency this worked.
The idea that a marriage councilor is going to save your marriage is the wrong one to have. If you go to marriage counseling with that attitude, you will fail. The councilor cannot fix your marriage, only you, and your husband can fix your marriage. The councilor has no magic pill, nor can he do the work for you. You must do the work for yourself.
The councilor can show you the problem areas in your marriage, how to work on them, and he can show you the way back to a healthy marriage but he cannot, and will not walk the road the journey for you. You have to do the work yourself.
2006-10-17 09:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People take marriage so lightly these days, they get divorced for everything. You may or may not read the Bible but do you know what is the only scriptural grounds for divorce? Yup... Infidelity. (Matthew 19:9) So where as you CAN try to make it work, if you called it quits even God would understand. I can’t (& shouldn’t) tell you what to do. But personally I’d leave someone who was unfaithful to me. Of course if you have children the game changes a bit. If you do decide to get a divorce, makes sure that they will be taken care of. Also you need to prepare them for it mentally. Don’t try to get them on Mommy’s side & paint Daddy as the devil. Don’t tell them gritty details either cause children don’t need to hear that. Just explain that while you tried your best the relationship is not working & the best thing to do now is to part ways & that their parents will still love & take care of them. Just remember Divorce is an OPTION not necessarily the best course of action. It’s possible counseling can put you back on track. Prayer wouldn’t hurt either.
2016-05-22 11:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by Emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been to a marriage counselor and it helps, because you have a third party to tell you both of your faults, it makes it easier to accept. You have to be willing to share everything with the counselor and you have to be willing to do the exercises and be understanding of each other and the counselor.
2006-10-17 09:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage should be based on mutual trust and honesty if there is any hope for survival. If she is a liar and a cheater, what do you expect to change? Do you think that she will change for you and stop lying and cheating? If so, you are sadly mistaken.
2006-10-17 09:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know about going as last resort on a liar ,cheater ! We went and my husband ended up not changeing at all just delayed his cheatin and wasted time and money! My sis went to one on her mariage and no good either .I strongly believe its learned behavoir on lying ect.in there childhood and to change that is way to hard .You have to figure this behavoir is yrs of it and you cant change them .I hate to rain on counseling but in a liar no way to help them in my opinion.Get out and run far away from this person!
2006-10-17 09:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only hope marriage counseling will help. I think your spouse also needs to seek individual counseling to find out why he is a liar and cheat.
Until he understands what drives him to those behaviours, he will continue on the way he his. Good luck to you. I would be inclined to dump the jerk and move onward.
2006-10-17 09:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he lies to you, what makes you think he will tell the truth to a counsellor? If you don't like this behaviour, then leave now and start on your own life.
2006-10-17 09:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother? He needs to learn his ultimate lesson. Divorce him so you can live a happy life.
2006-10-17 09:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have.it's good to go because it's a place where you and your spouse can learn from your mistakes and get great advice on your marriage.
2006-10-17 10:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by Meow4Moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋