I am a good husband and all but we just do not have any passion for each other anymore...I want to take this big job offer which is something I want to do. My pay will triple every year 120k verses $450k yr. But its a big change and wife is not willing to go. I married her for life but she is putting me in a corner over this. I would not leave her just because the sex went bad..Its through good times and bad...The choice I can take is mexborgn, austrialia or Naple Florida I chose Florida I guess?? I am going to chose one whether she wants it or not......my question is this should I divorce her if she does not move with me?????
2006-10-17 09:16:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you are a very good man.i wish i would have found you before i got married.
2006-10-17 10:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by Meow4Moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing right now, and let me tell you something, I do not want to go nor do I find it right to move my child. However, I do believe we all are here to do something, my husband took the job and is now in a new state, has not been home in 5 months, and now we are on the verge of divorce.. However, he says he feels that he made the best decision for himself. Ok he is ok with that. I understand what you are saying about the passion, because that is our situation as well, so he is there and I am here, since there is no passion and it was gone when he left, I am going to visit him for a month to see if we can get that back, if not we have decieded together that we would end it and go our seperate ways..
2006-10-17 09:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't your wife want to move? Why are you willing to choose a bigger paycheck over your wife? It sounds like you have some serious issues. Maybe if you can address whatever issues she has or work out some sort of compromise this won't have to be the end of your marriage.
2006-10-17 09:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your wife work too? Do you have any kids?If Not on both then go but if you have kids then you need to think hard about what you are going to do. If your wife works she may think that you feel that your job is more important then her or then she is. Talk to her and if you still want to take the job then take it. If she doesn't move give her sometime to think about what is more important where you live or who you live with. Hopefully she will move with you and you all will one Happy family.
2006-10-17 09:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't divore her. Pray for her. God can do anything. Prayer is VERY powerful. No job or money can make you happy. Rebuke Satan, he wants to destroy your marriage. Do Not Give in.
Matt 19:26
But Jesus looked at them and said to them, "With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible."
Jeremiah 29:11-13
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.
2006-10-17 22:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end we all have to do what makes us happy. Move and start your new job. Talk to your wife and maybe she will move after-wards. If not than you have not passed up a chance of a lifetime for someone who'd rather not be with or support you.
2006-10-17 09:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by shelshe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears that you have a question of values (what is important to you) here. You and your wife need to discuss your values honestly, openly and compassionately and see where you two stand. Hopefully, both of you place significant value on your marriage and that's a good start. I think this honest and gentle discussion will be enlightening for both of you and your answers will appear. Good luck.
2006-10-17 09:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fair enough mate! I would do the exact same in your position. I dont remember hearing that i had to stay with my wife if she refused sexual intamacy. I think ur wife has brought this on herself. Dont beat urself up over this, you are not to blame here, and I dont think u are scum at all! why should you feel guilty? she should be the one wearing the guilt for forcing you into the arms of another woman! if she didn't do this in the first place, this wouldn't have happened.
2016-03-18 21:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sad to say that you have no choice. You two need to compromise. This is a great opportunity for the both of you. Maybe moving will rejuvenate the relationship and maybe a different setting can rekindle any romance that's left. Take her down there first so she can see how it is....good luck!
2006-10-17 09:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by La Caballota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Australia and take her with you... If she doesn't want to go then get a divorce because it will never work if you don't see each other on a regular basis. The reason I say Australia is it is 10x better than Florida.
2006-10-17 09:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried a long distance marriage with my husband living and working in Seattle and me working and living in Las Vegas. I made the most money, and let him follow his dream. Needless to say, living a country width apart aided in the demise of my marriage. You can't work and build on something if you're not together.
I say go for the job, if you weren't happy before, chances are it's only going to get worse and you'll kick yourself in the *** for not making yourself happy.
2006-10-17 09:23:41 · answer #11 · answered by princessslave 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋