I am 5 mos. and just found out that I’m having a boy. Every name I have chosen my boyfriend dislikes and every name he has chosen I HATE. I picked a name that I refuse to change. So, I told him he could pick the middle name and I will pick the first name since I am the one carrying and delivering our baby I get first dibs on the name and if we have another child he can pick their name. Is this unfair? And did anyone else have this problem and worked it out so that you are both happy? Thanx in advance.
2006-10-17 09:09:15 · 10 answers · asked by donna j 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I had the same problem with my boyfriend, so I just got a baby name book and made a list of all of the names that I liked. I started going down the list and he actually liked the first one I picked, so we decided that is our babies name. He was supposed to make a list of his own too, but he is lazy and didn't get around to it, so we went off my list. I would say get a book, both of you make a list, and find a name you agree on.
2006-10-17 09:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by peachy4995 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel a compromise is best in situations like that. Yes it would be fair since you can't agree for you to pick one name and he pick the other. My husband and I had difficulty choosing a name for our first girl and one day he just spit out this name and i thought 'perfect!!' I like the out there names and he likes the mor edown to earth names and we agreed on it. He spit out that name and said I could choose the middle name. With our second girl, I was very reluctant to choose a name because I thought it was a boy and when they confirmed it was another girl, I had trouble agreeing with my husband on his choice, but I couldn't think of one better. So we now have a Brianna Mae and a Jessica Dorothy. Again, I got to choose the middle name. Good luck and congrats on your boy!!!!
2006-10-17 17:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by littlemiss4705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had that problem, too. We are having a girl, and it took us forever to come up with a name that we both agree on. I really loved this one name in particular, and he hated it. Finally, though, we found ONE name that we both liked. It took a long time, wouldn't have been my first choice at all, but we both agreed and we both love the name now. Take your time, try all options, please. It will feel so much better to have a name with which you can both agree and both love. It may not be your first choice, but you can learn to love it, just like I have. Good luck to you!!!
2006-10-17 16:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by SAHMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're being unfair...to yourself. You're going to carry the next one too. You should get a say in naming all of your kids. If you go through the misery of pregnancy, and then the delivery, you name that baby whatever you want. A mutual agreement would be nice though.
2006-10-17 16:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by trivial 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you are being unfair...You didn't make this baby on your own... I say wait till you both agree on a name... it will take time, but eventually you will come to an agreement. He has just as much right at naming the baby boy as you do...
2006-10-17 16:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by DO IT! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in all fairness, you wouldn't even be pregnant if it weren't for him! So, you really should settle on a name you BOTH agree on. There are thousands of names out there, I bet with a bit of research you will find a name you both like.
2006-10-17 16:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by Trixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
had this exact problem with son, now four gave daddy the same solution. to this day i dont like my sons middle name. I think i should have given him his first AND middle name, he was definitely gettin his last name. Try to find something you both agree on first and middle you still have 5 months to go. dont worry youll come up with something!
2006-10-17 16:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by mom511 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should both agree on the name since it's a boy. guys usually care more about naming boys than they do girls.
2006-10-17 16:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by casnraesmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not married, therefore you get to choose the entire name.
(If you'd like). If you were married there would need to be compromise.
2006-10-17 16:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first learn to spell, 2nd, call him Jack
2006-10-17 16:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by DOINK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋