Newly divorced - not a kid - been dating on & off with this guy since April, but have known him for years - came on strong in the beginning, but then went "AWOL" - admitted he has commitment issues since ex cheated on him - was looking for casual sex - i never gave it to him - told him let's just be friends - called me about 1 month after that slightly drunk saying how much he missed me, knows that he hurt me, then went AWOL again for another month - called me again this weekend saying he misses me, but sober this time - told him i was slightly involved with someone else, and now he is coming on strong again - calling or texting everyday since last weekend - is it that same old story, he wants me now that i'm with someone else?
2006-10-17 09:07:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Are you happy in your present relationship? Just ignore him. You'll probably be unhappy with the "pursuer". Men like that like the chase, and as soon as they get in your pants, they'll dump you.
The "badder" they are, the more charming they are. He'll win your heart and stomp on it as soon as he has it in his hands. Don't let him. Build on your present relationship.
Of course he probably has his own reasons for continuing to chase you? Are you... like... give him a bit of hope? Don't. Are you insinuating that your present bf is a doorknob? Don't.
The guy that's chasing you? He's sortof like a magnet with you. When you face him, he runs. If you turn away, he turns back to you. That's precisely how your whole relationship with him will be if you let him in to your life.
Listen to him. He said he's afraid of commitment. He means it. Take that to heart.
2006-10-17 09:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this fellow finds you a challenge and can't resist. If you are after more than a casual sexual relationship at this point in your life, then you need to keep looking because once you succumb to this fellows charms he's going to be roving on to greener pastures. What are you looking for in this relationship? If it's not the same thing he's after then don't waste your time. Mr. Right is out there waiting to be found.
2006-10-17 10:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by sistervoodoo2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and ask yourself seriously if you sort of like this crap. I would have changed my telephone number, if needed. He only pulls this because you might be too nice. I had this old friend in highschool and talked with him for a while, after my separation, I showed a small interest but then one day he had a bad day and went totally off on me. I have always been a strong person in life. He came later and said to me, I know you are going to cut me off and stop seeing me. I told him, you know it buddy. All of my brothers are Marines; he wanted to keep his distance since they love to get involved, if necessary. He haven't spoken to me since. Nip it in the Bud; find other things to get involved with. I finally found a good man and married. You are somehow letting this crap continue to happen; and I think you know that.
2006-10-17 09:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by georja 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a guy I used to date. Prepare yourself for a long and hard ride if you keep taking him back. He sounds like a narcissist. He only wants what is best for him. They always come crawling back to us with the best love lines you have ever heard. Protect your heart and keep moving on.
2006-10-17 15:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is playing the field and you are in line if he does find someone else at the moment-- booze is a great talker when filled but sober he is just playing you-- sorry find someone else-- get a real man to love
2006-10-17 09:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really sounds that way to me. and i also can appreciate the fact that you got up and moved on with your life instead of putting it on hold (as some many of us do). I say let him know you want to be friends and don't let him interfert with your relationship unless you think he ready. you're smart, you got this in the bag!
2006-10-17 09:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you get involved with him, prepare yourself for some serious hurt. there is no way that a relationship with a guy like that can ever go well. be careful with him!
2006-10-17 09:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by swatthefly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this dude is a loser who just want u for a quick f*ck.. ..
pls dun believe him.... he is just toying with ur feeling..
oh ya.. tell him to go f*ck himself whenever he called or texted u......
just for fun. :-P
2006-10-17 21:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by bLuR.? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋