My BF is budhist, bcos his parents are budhist too & I'm christian. I would like to hv a good christian family in the future, but my BF isn't sure if he would be able to face his family & tell them he is gonna follow my religion.He's afraid of being excluded from the family.
After being in a dillemma (He ever told me that he would follow, then he changed his mind again, now he changed his mind again and he told me he will stay with me and just follow my belief.) He finally told me that he would struggling with me. Should I stay with him or not?
2006-10-17 09:03:59 · 12 answers · asked by hoitje 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Personally, if he is willing to change and become a Christian, I'd stay. Only if he truly means it, though. It will be hard to face his family, and tell them that he is no longer interested in being Budhist, but, it's his family. They should understand. They may not agree, but it's his choice. My suggestion is to pray. Whether you two are going to be together forever is a big thing, but you can't marry someone (if you decide to go that far) with a different religion. You wont be able to compromise. (And some things cannot be compromised.) Do what you think is best. I can't give you the pefect answer, but you and I both know the One who can.
2006-10-17 09:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Zoid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you teach the kids about BOTH religions? faith isn't about blindly following the bible, it's about believing in a higher power and living your life as a good person. i think christians and budhists do this. is the God you worship pretty much the only difference? you have to wonder, are all these other believers going to hell, or will they be rewarded for their faith? your BF is the religion of his parents, as you probably are to. so is salvation a matter of location or where you are born? NO! you can work this out if you truly want to.
2006-10-17 09:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by advicemom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Christian, then you know that the apostle Paul warned us not be be unequally yoked with unbelievers. This would be confusing for the children who would be getting conflicting messages from the different parents. It is also confusing for you as a Christian, since you and your husband will have different values and goals, which will make reaching a consensus on decision making more difficult.
I personally do not think that you can convert someone to your religion by marrying him. He will convert just to get married, but his heart will not be in it (as you noticed) and he will convert back sooner or later.
2006-10-17 09:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes,you should stay with him.His willing to be excluded fromhis family because he loves you. He's willing to convert to another religon because he loves you. That sounds liike a devoted man. Though, you can still raise a christian family and let your husband be Budhist,that what we do.
2006-10-17 09:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I am a spiritual person and have studied Buddhism extensively and practice meditation. My wife is Southern Baptist. She is non-practicing right now. It is a wonderful relationship. We also have two different political affiliations. It brings some sparks but we just make fire!
Try it. If it is love, it will last.
He needs to make a decision and figure out who he is.
Take Care.
2006-10-17 09:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by RJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never bothered me when I dated an athiest (I'm Christian).
But then...I don't go to because I say organized religion is nothing but a nunch of hyporcrites turning their words around and using them to cause trouble in the world. I read the bible and I pray.
There should be more than religion to a relationship, though.
2006-10-17 09:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For one you should let your children decide what they want to "believe in" and show them both. There's no right or wrong way to believe or praise god or whom ever. Besides I think your getting ahead of your self your not even engaged or married. Worry about all that when it happens and if you really love each other you can find a way for it to work.
2006-10-17 09:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its really hard if you both have different religions. For example my husband is Catholic and I am Christian.Before we got married he knew what kind of religion I was and he said he did not care.And know that we are married he docent let me go to my church.But I still go he docent know but I go.So I would say think about it really hard before you guys get married its really hard but you know that God will help you. He is helping me allot and I have faith one day my husband will become Christian.God Bless and good luck.
2006-10-17 09:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by SMILEY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would only stay if you can live with a budhist.
2006-10-17 09:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well that is difficult situation dear, i think the best thing is not to stay with him because religion is a hard thing to change , and it will change everything in his life , i think that's very very not good thing to do ,
2006-10-17 09:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by ftoumeh79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋