ok...a while back i told my mom that i'm bi...she just looked at me..evil kind a look..and said "why do you think you are bi?" lol..wow what a hard answer to answer to your parents.. so i explained to her about my gf and how i was attracted to girls and i like girls basicaly...well she said , "just cuz you mess around with girls and have gfs u r bi??" ... ok by this time i'm lost... uh...yeah!!! lol...so my bro the other day likes to call me bisexual (as if it bothers me) and my mom said she would dis own me and all this crap if i was... do u think she is in denial?? Does she hate me?? what should i do??
so...i am bi...right? lol
i know i seem stupid but please answer and be kind... :)
2006-10-17 09:01:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
lol and yes.... i am into guys too...i love guys and i love girls they both have alot to give....and i love both... i like to see the best in personalities...
2006-10-17 09:11:13 · update #1
i'm 16 so i have no experiance in sex and am waiting for the right guy...or girl...to do that stuff with but i can still fantisize... :) so really i don't know if i'm like ur wife.....
2006-10-17 09:16:27 · update #2
In no part of your question do you address the "boy" factor. So, are you bi or gay? Either way, it doesn't matter--mom just needs to let it soak in for a bit--she doesn't hate you--just give her some time to mentally digest your announcement and let her know that you'd like her to feel comfortable continuing the conversation when she's ready.
2006-10-17 09:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by pocket68rocket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess for your mom is a tought time to accept that her daughter is bi. There's nothing wrong about liking girls and at least you told your mom the truth. Just give her time and space to digest the whole situation and bring the subject up again if she still doesn't accept it. I don't think she hates you at all. But remember she's a mother and is hard for her to accept that one of her kids likes the same sex. Maybe she's trying to chance your mind but if you're a Bisexual say it and be confident about your desicion. Good luck talking to your mom and if that doesn't work go to a therapy section together. Hope it helps.
2006-10-17 16:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have already answered your own question. U are attracted to girls right? And u still have an attraction for boys right? That would be BIsexual. Your mom is in denial and probably will be until u let it be known this is how u are and how u r going to be. But u may not even be sure of how comfortable u are with it yourself yet. Give it sum time.
2006-10-17 16:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how it goes for bisexuals, but for me, a gay guy, I always liked guys. From what I hear, though, some bisexuals can go through phases. Have you always liked both? Been attracted to both? Had a crush on both? Been involved with both?
It's vulgar, quite, but since we're dealing with sexuality it's appropriate, there was an exercise that when people were confused or going through a transition and needed to find out for themselves they were asked one question: when you self pleasure yourself what do you fantasize about? Men, women, both? In any event, this usually settles any debate you'd have with anyone doubting you, even if it's yourself.
Best of luck.
2006-10-17 17:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by zea_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know ur age ,but at times all male and female go through a time in their life where they can be attracted to one another. The big secert is many people think they are permantley stuck in this sort of life style when they are not,but have been so belittled by society and intimadated by the gay/lesbian community its very difficult to break free from this life style. As a result the gay/lesbian community has rallied their groups to convince people that this is normal so they can feel more comfortable about their lifestyle and be accepted by the "normal" people.No i dont think your mother hates you this is another way gay will try to be accepted " you dont care " or "you dont want to be my friend"or "you dont like me" its always someone else's problem and not theirs your responability is to not give in to this lifestyle and if you are in it get away from it before its too late and you will be a much happier person.Just remember the penis is made to be inserted into a vagina and the vagina is designed to bring forth new humans into the world.The anus was made to discharge waste and poison from your marvelous and wonderfully made body.. God bless
2006-10-17 16:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious.
I have male friends that I love like a brother. We go out hunting, fishing, drinking and have on occation danced by our selves when the women were "sitting this one out". We have fun together. We never had or cared to have sex with each other. We are not bi. We're good firends.
Some of my male friends are very good looking and I try to emulate them in dress as they have
1) Good taste in clothing or,
2) Wives/GF's that have good taste in clothing.
Now is this what you are with your GF's? You say you have not had sex. Bi is normally refered to as sexual attraction to both sexes.
Please don't get me wrong, my GF is Bi so I know the difference.
2006-10-17 17:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look little lady. My wife is bi and she still married me. that just mean that every so often i have two chicks at one time. That's cool with me. She also really loves kock. That is where I come into play. Besides that she says she could never be in a relationship with a women. She just likes to use there bodies. So are you like that? That would mean that you are still going to marry a guy. If you are bi, than you are not a lesbian. You should still like guys right?
Modify your question with those anwers please.
2006-10-17 16:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah it sounds as if your mom is indenial I know it might hurt you but I would not tell her much right now because you allready try I would give her time then sit with her and try talking to her and if she does not accept you for who you are for more that it hurts you have to think of you of what makes you happy and if you must then live your own life not the one your mom wants you to live
2006-10-17 16:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
any mother who would disown their precious child is totally sick. Yeah, I guess you sound like you're bisexual or curious at least. Maybe your mom 'messed around with girls' and isnt saying! And if so, then she doesn't consider that being 'bi'.
2006-10-17 16:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by CJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see you mention nothing of the male species, which makes me ask the question? Are you Lesbian or Bi? Bi would interpret to both sexes? I see nothing wrong with Bi......... :)
2006-10-17 16:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by cajunpalomino 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋