ive been having a huge issuie on the question of "love" lately i've been having bad luck. my recent ex bf basically cheated on me with 2 different girls, and now hes going out with this one girl from pennsylvania, cuz he was visiting to see his mom. stupid? i know, he lives here in cali, and she lives all the way there, so they are currently having a long distance relationship. right now hes in military skool out in san diego, and there still together, but i dont understand how people fall in and out of love so fast. he was like litterally obssessed with me and he wud have done anything for me, and he promised me so much, and i truely did think that we wud be together forever, i thot he was the one. but now it all seems like he was fake. and i think hes done it to other gf's in the past. i think he will do it to his new gf, but im not too sure since he's willing to be with her when she lives all the way in pennsylvania,so im a little confuzed, based on his decisions help me!
2006-10-17 09:00:57 · 4 answers · asked by Tina C 1 in News & Events ➔ Other - News & Events
guys cheat for a number of reasons. to many to list here. but the key is trust and if you don't trust him then don't date him.
2006-10-17 09:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all part of the problem is MILITARY...For some reason military guys are worse than civilian guys about cheating. HEY HEY .... LET ME FINISH!! My husband was in the military when we first got together and recently ETSed out. Whats worse he was raised military. Before we got married he cheated twice...Alot of it had to do with commitment and not being able to go and do who and what he wanted. Since then my husband has never cheated again and he still loves me more than anything besides our daughter. Chances are honey he is scared of committing. That word right there is like someone holding guns to mens head and saying your dead. Its the end of the world for them. As for us girls....look forward to continually being loved by one person and always trusting.
2006-10-17 09:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by mcshankel04 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are a lot of guys out there who will do that, but there are also a lot of guys out there who wont.
basically when you are looking for a guy to date, and you want to avoid a cheater, you need to look for the following:
first, he is currently single, and has been single for at least a little while. if you start dating someone who is going out with someone else, then he's not going to respect your relationship, and he'll just end up cheating on you. even if hes single, you want to make sure that hes been single for a little bit because if you are a rebound to him, he wont feel bad about cheating on you.
second, find a guy who is willing to take it slow. if a guy is totally all about rushing into everything, chances are he's going to be willing to rush into the arms of someone else. if you find a guy who's willing to take it slow, thats someone who will truly treasure you and would never cheat on you.
third, find a guy who does not lie. and i dont mean that he doesnt lie TO YOU. i mean a guy who doesnt lie PERIOD. if a guy lies, chances are, hes going to have no problem cheating, because really, thats all cheating is..... just a big lie about what his relationship with you really means.
so dont be hung up over someone who's cheated on you because chances are, its going to happen again. just move on, and look for someone who will understand what you are truly worth.
2006-10-17 09:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by swatthefly 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
AHH he got tired of you, and if this is not the first time that you were cheated on then the problem is you. you pick the wrong guys
2006-10-17 09:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by GRUNT 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋