Ok, I have been married for 10 years and when it comes to sex I do everything I can to satisfy my wife. I take her advice and when it is not feeling good to her I listen to her suggestions and bam she is happy. However when I suggest that I would like her to start working on the cowgirl position with me, she instantly gets defensive and snaps at me. W*T*F. I thought it was the men that had the ego problem. I really didn’t think that it would be such an issue, every once and a while I would like her on top so I can relax and enjoy it. Also I thought that position was empowering to women to be on top. Before any of you girls decide to bite my head off and say that I need to be more in tune to her feelings. I did not demand, I suggested as she does to me about what she might like and how to make it better. I am about to the point where I am going to snap. I want some satisfaction. Any suggestions?
2006-10-17 08:50:18 · 21 answers · asked by winterlinda21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I gotta agree with you this is a team effort and it appears you are very attentive to her needs, (lucky girl!) How would my man convince me to do something sexual that I find intimidating...hmmn..he'd be persistant and somewhat aggressive. Not sure of her personality but consistant changing of positions could and some serious casual coaxing mixed in with a bit of submissive suggestions like..."come on Baby Show Daddy how much you like it...ride me baby...let Daddy blow up inside you" Ride your Stallion Baby...come and get yours...that'll work for me...Good luck...and if that don't work let her know there's a cow girl called Goodie who'd love to show her how to ride her man...LOL...
2006-10-17 09:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that after 10 years with your wife that you are still enjoying sex. As a woman I feel that she should do what ever it takes to please her husband if he is doing the same for her (which it sounds like on your end) with the exception of things that she isn't comfortable with. I personally prefer the reverse position better because it gives the man a great visual picture!!! Seriously though, talk to her and explain how you feel but don't get defensive and say things that are hurtful. Remember, she's your wife and not some trick on the streets and maybe she feels embarassed about being on top. You never know why until you ask! Good luck!
2006-10-17 09:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by slow-n-sexy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no biting off of heads. making love should be fun, exciting and satisfying for both parties. 10 years is a long time and i know sometimes it feels like the same old same old but it can be changed. have you asked her outside of the bedroom why she does not want to be on top. have you, when making love never rolled over while still attached, so to speak?if you have, stop when you are under her, you then can have your wish. ok, it might not be quite what you want but at least you will be halfway there. buy scented candles, light them in the bedroom, massage each other with oils, but dont make an issue over the lady on top or else she will dig her heels in and you will be forever wanting.
2006-10-17 09:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by Veronica C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what first and foremost I want you to know I respect the way you are going about things and the way you please your woman. I think you should sit down over a nice quiet dinner and explain it to her the same way you did here. I don't see how in the world any woman can not understand what you are saying....but then again just from looking at some of the answers you got to your answer I don't know LOL. But what I do know is she better jump on you before someone else sees potential in you. I mean what more can you ask for. After 10 years she should be able to know what you want and need just by looking at you and looking in your eyes.
2006-10-17 08:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by A Lady 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with that at all. We like what we like. Ask her why she gets so defensive when you bring this up. Let her know that you do what she suggests because you want to make the experience as pleasurable for her as possible and she should be willing to do the same. I hate it when women do this because I honestly feel that it is bull like this that causes really good guys to start looking elsewhere to have their needs met. Let her know that you would never want it to come to that and that you need a little variety from her end. Good Luck!
2006-10-17 08:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have done everything she wants to and now she is saying NO when you want to try something new. Have you discussed this with her. Reverse cowgirl is a great position especially when done in front of a mirror. You need to ask her why this position is so terrible. You should casually mention how you did everything she wanted to in bed and now would like to try this. Good Luck
2006-10-17 08:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being on top can be empowering or intimidating, depending on how you feel about yourself at the moment. That at least is my experience. Maybe she's just used to the sexual routine you both have established. Can you talk to her and tell her how you feel about the reaction she had? Perhaps it was just her initial response and she will change her mind once she realizes how important it is to you.
2006-10-17 08:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by Gwen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As your wife it is her responsibility to make sure you are satisfied. Heck, its not like your asking for a threesome or something, and woman on top is one of the more common, "basic" positions anyhow.
Remind her who wears the pants in the family. Seriously, and this is coming form a woman.
2006-10-17 08:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is your wife overweight?? I used to be, and felt very uncomfortable on top, (Thought I was going to hurt the poor guy)
I lost the weight and the hang up. Ride Cowgirl, Ride
2006-10-17 08:53:45 · answer #9 · answered by Doll 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should tell her exactly what you just told us. But be more sincere. Let her know that you cant be the only one, its a two person event. I am always up to what my husband wants. She should try it and stop being so defensive to you.
2006-10-17 08:53:27 · answer #10 · answered by **What??** 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋