i love my boyfriend more than anythin and we're gonna be moving in together shortly, i really want a baby but my boyfriend doesnt think we're ready.
2006-10-17 08:12:58 · 10 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Listen to your boyfriend......finish school..get a job...and be able to provide more than just love for your child.....Good things come to those who wait
2006-10-17 11:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by JIM D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait. There are so many things that make us want babies--hormones, the desire for someone to love, cute baby shoes... But remember these things: 1) once you have a baby, you never get to live your own life again; 2) once you have a baby, you are responsible for someone else's life--if you want them to have an opportunity, you have to provide it; 3) kids cost a lot--look at estimates online; 4) having kids is hard without a dad--he better be ready to commit, and ready to help.
There are probably a lot of things you want to try--more school, different jobs, travelling. Think of how much you can learn, and how much this new knowledge could help you be a better parent. There are other ways to fulfill your needs--just figure out what will make you happy--spending time with kids, focusing your something else in your life, working on your relationship--and focus on that for a while. You and your boyfriend can have fun planning and dreaming of your future family (he's got to be on board after all), and then later you'll be even happier when you have it.
2006-10-17 16:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your a bit too lazy to spell out all the words in a question, and if your 18 with just a steady boyfriend who isn't married to you, or fully committed, then you aren't ready.
It's probably best to wait until your married, and in a relationship that will last possibly forever instead of just a boyfriend. No matter how much you two love each other, theres no way of telling how long you two will be together. That's reality.
AND, both of you need to be ready, not just one of you. Having a baby isn't easy. Just because you think you want a baby to have something cute or something, then its not good. Your boyfriend doesn't want a baby. If you had a baby with him, then you would have to take care of it. I've seen a lot of mothers with only one baby. It's really hard,really stressful, and you need a lot of money to take care of you and your baby.
2006-10-17 19:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by roleypoley1992 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT ready. Your priorities are NOT in order. If you have a baby you will NOT have a b/f. Are you picking up on a trend here?
NOT emotionally ready for the responsibilities
NOT psychologically ready for the hassles
obviously NOT ready for marriage (that is supposed to come first)
NOT financially ready for the expenses of a baby (10-15,000 to bring a child into this world)
You need to change your thinking patterns.
2006-10-17 17:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have $ to feed you, baby & bf, who is getting this $?
At 18 having a baby means :
1) no more clubbing time
2) no drinking & smoking
3) no more chalets or parties
4) no mid night movies or sneak previews
5) no sleep over at galfrens house
6) no more private time for bf
7) no discos or functions
8) no extra money to buy branded stuffs
9) no time to hang out at malls/ starbucks
U choose.
2006-10-17 22:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by Rootbeer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know this is probably wut u dont wanna hear but i dont hink ur ready either casue i mean theres many things u have to think about i mean u have to think if ur willing to raise the baby after its born and u have to remember u cant give it away or take it back after u have it. wut i think u should do is maybe wait tweo more years and spend some time with ur boyfriend since u guys will be moving in shortly i mean it will get getting used to. cause u guys never lived together before. but i think thats wut u should do cause i dont hink it would be good to have a baby after only living together for a while. well good luck.
2006-10-17 16:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by janet556 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off
If you can't correctly spell out your words...you shouldn't have a baby.You need a steady income,a boyfriend/fiance/husband that you know is ready for a baby and that you know wants a baby.If he's not ready don't pressure or trick him or it will just take longer.You have such a long time for all of this..no need to rush into parethood.
Best of luck!
Brittany
2006-10-17 16:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well you're not ready, your missing out on all the good things in life like i dunno college or university, you should want the best life for your baby so would it kill you to wait for some years? your probably going trough a phase eventually you'll forget about this until yourr ready. Thank God you've got your boyfriend he's the one who will save you/
2006-10-17 16:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by whatever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you are ready , this stupid people don't understand even you told them "i want a baby" . ask your bf and if he say yes , do it . goodluck
2006-10-17 19:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
1.date
2.engagement
3.marriage or common-law
4.if employed,baby.
2006-10-17 16:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by onionheadinvancouver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋