Been going out with this guy for 3 years.
Broken up before when his mother died a year and half ago. When she suddenly died he didn't tell me just stood me up and ignored me for a few days. Afterwards he said he didn't want to be with me and we parted for about a month. We got back together and he aplogies for treating me so badly.
Since then everything was fine untill he finshed his studies and got a job and suddenly he found he was under pressure with working all (he works in a gym so its unsociable hours!) plus he's a dedicated sports man so his hobby is important too. I told him he could have time off to sort himself out but instead he started to ignore me again after a few days I sent him an email to say how hurt I was and why was he doing this?
He called afterwards apologied and we agreed to take a months break while he sorted himself out. A month later he comes back and we start to see each other only once a week. Then one Saturday he's suppose to come round and he doesn't appear! So I call his mobile and its switched off. After that I don't call again. I've texted postive messages and emailed but I get no response. Obviously have a lot of good memories but I don't understand why I'm being ignored! If he doesn't want to be with me surely he could say? But I get no response at all? I haven't yelled or screamed at him just told him how much I love him.
Its been over 3 weeks and I'm trying to stay postive but I don't understand why he's being so mean! Any words of wisdom? Anyone dealt with someone like this before? I know I need to move on but his behaviour is so cold. Thanks for reading this :)
2006-10-17 08:03:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You have a good head on your shoulders it seems and you know what you need to do (move on) I think what you are looking for is closure which is human nature. It seems to me that you will not get the closure you're looking for from this paticular guy. It seems like he wants you when he wants you and doesn't want to let go officially because he wants you when it is convenient. Just remember that he is the idiot not you!
Good Luck and I hope you feel better soon!
2006-10-17 08:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by Amaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your cue from the guy! If he wanted to see you or talk to you or offer an explanation, he's had more than ample time to do it. If the man is more into himself and his job and hobbies than he's into you as a person, then you are into a relationship that's headed only one direction (downhill). You have already wasted three years of your life on a man that makes it very obvious that he wants OUT. Walk away and don't look back. Look forward and find a man that loves you as much as you love him. The good ones are out there, you just have to start searching for them. Hard to search while tying up all your time with the loser.
2006-10-17 08:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by sistervoodoo2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he may have realized that the relationship has run its course after a few monumental life changes he may have figured out more about himself and you are not part of that. .You have to move on because he is not giving you a choice.You may want resolution or closure but you may not get it the way you want.
It sounds like you deserve more stability than this guy can give .Do not be a scapegoat any longer.If he wants to be with you he would make contact because you have made it abundantly clear how you feel.
2006-10-17 08:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by Style Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 21:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him for good he's using you. It's called on and off again relationship. Those never work. Like the title of the book He's Just Not Into You. Follow my advice don't listen to those people who are saying talking to him will fix it. That's just crap. Dump and find somebody else who will treat u with some respect.
2006-10-17 08:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only wants you when he needs you. If you have nothing better to do than sit around and wait for him to call and take you back, then don't complain. Otherwise, wake up and get a new life with someone else. He isn't going to change and you aren't going to change him either.
2006-10-17 08:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Eldude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's something where you should meet him face to face and talk about it. Maybe say that, "I understand that we've decided to have a break from each other, but that doesn't mean I want to be forgotten." When your face to face, he'd have to listen to you. Be gentle, but be forceful. Really tell him how his actions have made you feel. Ask if maybe he has any solutions to the problem. Make him think about it for a bit. I hope this helps!
2006-10-17 08:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by jessi.swimchick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Excuses, excuses, excuses....stop. Sounds like this guy is just stringing you along. You need to get your head back onto your shoulders and move on. You'll feel better, about yourself, once you find someone who truly loves you and wants to be with you.
You should never have to find excuses why someone is too busy for you................True love never has these issues.
2006-10-17 08:37:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to forget about this COWARD of a guy!!
he gets his kicks hurting you
he knows what he is doing to you & how he is hurting you plus he is most likely cheating as well!!
you deserve someone who will treat you with respect.
would you treat him that way, no you wouldn't because you love him
if he loves you, you would be most important to him %98 of the time
2006-10-17 10:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating......he is trying to tell you it's over. The only person you should be thinking about making happy is yourself. MOVE ON, and don't be a door mat.....if he calls tell him you have plans!
2006-10-17 08:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by bam.... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋